So this is exactly why I'm single.. (husband, kiss, affairs)

[Peacelilies]

Originally Posted by Hobokenkitchen

Umm yeah. Even some stranger!
As crabman said, I would give more explanation than 'something came up' to my car mechanic, along with a 'sorry'.
This is someone the OP was considering as a relationship potential, first time meeting or no!

I don't get it, where are the manners in all this? I'm kind of shocked at the number of people who think canceling on short notice with zero explanation is ok.

I agree with you. 3 hours is short notice and he deserved more of an explanation. It's just basic courtesy.
Still doesn't give him the right to curse her out, but then again, we don't know what he's been through, online dating.

[crabman1]

Originally Posted by Opsimathia

To some stranger? "I can't make it" is info enough. I don't think anyone who is normal who respects boundaries would ask for details. They just wouldn't ask you out if it was habit.

Yes, to some stranger. Not knowing someone does not make it ok to treat them with discourtesy. I'm not talking about ass kissing, I'm talking about the simple respect and common courtesy that most of us would like to ourselves be treated with. What is so hard about a brief explanation?

[Free Beer]

Originally Posted by himain

I'm single because I choose not to settle with some douchebag just to not be alone.

Guy was a douchebag for sure, but that's not why you're alone.

[Opsimathia]

Originally Posted by crabman1

Yes, to some stranger. Not knowing someone does not make it ok to treat them with discourtesy. I'm not talking about ass kissing, I'm talking about the simple respect and common courtesy that most of us would like to ourselves be treated with. What is so hard about a brief explanation?

I really could care less. I would assume its an emergency and move on if I was the guy. I think its rude to expect an explanation of someone's personal business you barely know.

She doesn't know this guys from adam. So to really reveal any personal info is just not safe at this stage. And since there is an ill family member...thats someone else's personal business. Not like offending that twit was a loss.

[crabman1]

Originally Posted by Opsimathia

I really could care less. I would assume its an emergency and move on if I was the guy. I think its rude to expect an explanation of someone's personal business you barely know.

She doesn't know this guys from adam. So to really reveal any personal info is just not safe at this stage. And since there is an ill family member...thats someone else's personal business. Not like offending that twit was a loss.

I'm pretty sure one could manage a simple politeness without giving out a SSN, phone number, credit card info, and pictures of those college indiscretions couldn't they?

[Slanderous]

Originally Posted by Opsimathia

So to really reveal any personal info is just not safe at this stage.

How is telling someone you're spending time with a sick family member unsafe?

[Jellybean50]

Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd

I don't understand why you engage them this way. Just cut off all communication. If they persist, go to the police and show them the texts. If after you ask someone to stop texting you, they continue, that's stalking. If you engage them this way you make your case harder.

I do agree with this. People that i have not met yet in person - from online dating sites etc. - who start to act creepy, get igored right away. But i had to learn that the hard way, ie. they DONT give up!!

He had ISSUES - you found that out by having to cancel the date at the last minute - and seeing how that hit a nerve with him, and IMO it didnt need to. I would 'give' someone one chance for something like that - to at least see if they were being truthful about an emergency coming up or whatever. If they cancelled twice, i'd figure they really werent interested.

There are nuts on the dating sites, and there are good guys.

The one nut i ran into on a site who was not a paying member, liked my profile, and told me he was going to pay to join so we could communicate more. (I dont even give out any numbers for quite a while.)

After we emailed more, he started getting creepy - and i realized i didnt want to meet him. Then began the MEAN and nasty emails, telling me off and calling me names for CAUSING him to join the site. That i was the only reason he joined and spent the money. (a whole $19.99, and he was a 30-something professional man)

I finally didnt answer him anymore, and he quit writing. That's what it takes... about 10 unanswered emails. But after that, i stayed away from the site for a long time.

[Jellybean50]

OK... this guy was another jerk. For sure!!

He's probly a woman-hater... who knows why he's even on there.

And no - i wouldnt have even answered, not even once.

But i never sent out first messages when i was on the sites... just for that kinda reason.

[JordanJP]

...Once again, guy is an *******, but you gave him a response

[reed067]

Whats the old saying?


It's better to be alone for the right reason then to be with someone for the wrong reasons.