So this is exactly why I'm single.. (message, like, contact)

[wawaweewa]

Originally Posted by FlyiMetro

Hey man!!! Why are you telling how men operate???!!! Your not suppose to do that here man. Its better for the women to act like they know everything, than to actually know something about men. You are assisting the enemy. This post is treason! Turn your man card in ASAP! ill be waiting at the office!!

jk

The older I get, the more I realize that women have no ****ing clue about men, their psychology, or their tendencies. It may be true that the same thing can be said about men. However, that ignorance doesn't hurt men as much as it does women.

Men know what they're looking for and they can find it in every woman.
On the other hand, a woman will not find what she's looking for in every man. This is the simple truth. While it's easier for women to attract men, it's much harder for them to find the man they want. For men, it's the opposite. While it may be harder for men to attract women, it's much easier to find what we want.

A lot of women do not understand this and in turn start to play a dangerous game with age. Before they know it, the one huge advantage that they had (that of being able to easily attract men) is rapidly declining.

Then they start to cry and moan about being single.

[himain]

Got to love the hating rep points I get, LMAO.

[MrRational]

hmm

[donie1]

Originally Posted by himain

I'm sorry but I don't believe I owe anyone my personal family business until I feel they are ready to know it. It's none of his business why I had to reschedule PERIOD!!! I don't even know the guy!! And cancelling 3 hours prior is NOT last minute. If I wasn't interested, I wouldn't have mentioned rescheduling NOR calling the guy. I would have simply sent a text.

And that's why you're single. Try thinking of the other person and how they might feel.

Let's change it and say that a guy did that to you 3 hours before a date and then went on about how he couldn't get together with you for 2 more nights because he was busy. I think you would feel that he was blowing you off.

I'm not getting down on you but I think alot of people need to start communicating better and explaining themselves so the other person won't get the wrong impression.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by donie1

And that's why you're single. Try thinking of the other person and how they might feel.

Let's change it and say that a guy did that to you 3 hours before a date and then went on about how he couldn't get together with you for 2 more nights because he was busy. I think you would feel that he was blowing you off.

I'm not getting down on you but I think alot of people need to start communicating better and explaining themselves so the other person won't get the wrong impression.

Wow, lots of ghosts came out right before Halloween!

[Soviet]

Originally Posted by wawaweewa

The older I get, the more I realize that women have no ****ing clue about men, their psychology, or their tendencies. It may be true that the same thing can be said about men. However, that ignorance doesn't hurt men as much as it does women.

Men know what they're looking for and they can find it in every woman.
On the other hand, a woman will not find what she's looking for in every man. This is the simple truth. While it's easier for women to attract men, it's much harder for them to find the man they want. For men, it's the opposite. While it may be harder for men to attract women, it's much easier to find what we want.

A lot of women do not understand this and in turn start to play a dangerous game with age. Before they know it, the one huge advantage that they had (that of being able to easily attract men) is rapidly declining.

Then they start to cry and moan about being single.

Wow. This is a very interesting way of looking at it. I definitely didn't think about it.

[HDL]

Rooky mistake. If you didn't keep responding, highly likely that he wouldn't have continued for long either. This goes the same for posting online (CDF) as well. The more that you respond, the more the other person responds (typically) untils someone finally retreats or on CDF, the thread gets closed .

If it were me, I would be thanking God that the situation came up with my Mom and that I was able to see his 'real' personality before meeting him in person and having him find out more about me and where I live, etc. There are alot of folks like him and best to see this stuff 'before' you meet up (imho) !

Later when we see you on Dr Phil and he asks you if there were any warning signs , you will think back to that day and say !

Originally Posted by himain

He wouldn't stop texting me. I wasn't going to allow him to speak to me like that and not respond. I'm pretty proud of myself for taking the high road and not writing what I really wanted to say

[ybflady13]

Well it's Miami, what do you expect?

[iConsciousness]

Ok, so this is my first post on this site, and I didn't even read beyond page 2. What I want to say, though, is that it seems like you did your mom a favor.

Does the guy even sound like the way he texts? That was absolutely horrid. You don't even him owe him anything. As a matter of fact, both of you don't owe the other person anything. Yet, he thought he was entitled to a first date with no cancelations or setbacks?

I could understand the whole "I wonder if she's just backing out completely" thought process on his part, but that's more of an insecurity issue. Everything else that happened thereafter, however, is a respect issue.

Looks like you got out at the right time. And thank your mom.

[Percentage]

Originally Posted by himain

You guys are gonna love this. I swear ONLY me again!! Kinda long so enjoy!!

So I went back on Match and of course I'm getting responses from people I would NEVER consider but that goes with the game. However, a 45 yo guy who caught my eye had emailed me so I gave him my cell after a few emails and he called me yesterday morning. We had a decent conversation except he was hasseling me about my cat Anyways, we decided to meet for some drinks at 6:30. Well around 3:30 my mother (who's sick with stage 3 lung cancer) calls me and asks me if I'd like to come over and make stuffed shells with her and have dinner with my parents. So of course I'm going to spend time with my sick mother over any first date because I don't know if she'll be around next year. So I call the guy and tell him that somethings come up and ask if we could reschedule. The guy was ok with rescheduling. I said I had plans Thurs and Friday so if he wanted to get together Sat if he was available that would be great. He said that he doesn't like making plans that far ahead. He then says "When you want to go out with me, you call me" and hangs up! I call him back and asked if he hung up on me? He starts telling me I'm rude for cancelling and that obviously I'm not interested. I said "I could have texted you instead of calling you but I called you and it's 3 hours prior not 20 mins. I am interested in meeting you so that's why I asked if you would be available Saturday." Then the guy goes on a rant about how all women are selfish and I'm just the typical woman and basically berates me!! I said "Obviously this isn't going to work out and I wish you luck on Match" and hang up.

Here comes the fun part!! He starts texting me these crazy ass texts. Keep in mind this guy is a successful 45 year old.

Him: U r a joke and a liar. U r single and alone. Games and unsolicited advice unacceptable. Selfish girl bad news. U made plans break plans. U r unreliable person.

Me: What?? Do you actually speak to a woman like that and expect to get a favorable response? You're 45 and acting like this??

Him: U do not deserve any different when u r rude. U get what u give. Goes both ways and dont care. U suck. Sorry have another date tonight. U r backup dont bother me u lose rude woman

Me: I'm sorry but calling you 3 hrs to tell you I can't make it tonight and would like to reschedule is not rude. I don't know where you got your manners from but you are completely out of line.

Him: From women like u. So r u take responsbilitiy for your behavior. Works both ways.

Me: Stop texting me

Him: Yes stop texting me. U r harassing me. I have no money for u. Do not contact me again


I mean WTF??? Are you Fing kidding me??

lmfao. How did i miss this thread.. o'yeah online dating..i need to start peeking into threads about online dating....this was fun to read.