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Heaven forbid a woman wash her car looking anything but perfect.
Maybe she's done with dating. Maybe she's done with trying to impress anyone with her physical appearance. That's not a cry for help, that's growing up.
Notice that my description of her said nothing about attire. Again, I was surprised by the change in her physical appearance (gray hair, weight gain, facial smudges) which wasn't the case 4 months earlier. Four months ago, she was fairly close to the pleasant apperance she had while we were still married.
So again, my question is, why the sudden change? Why the sudden disinterest in her appearance?
According to our adult children, she hasn't dated anyone since we parted ways. For her own sake, I wished she would. She's in her early 50's. As with me, she must surely need some form of companionship.
Again, I am most thankful that we've purposely avoided animosity and still care enough to bring these subjects to the fore on public forums. Other than lawyers, no one gains anything from an animous divorce.
Well, did she look much different just short 4 months ago? Was the weight gain rapid? Maybe she is going through some health issues that caused her to gain weight? Gray hair and wrinkles, those things people usually don't have that much control over, some women take better care of themselves than others and tend to look younger. However, seems to me, that it's the rapidness of her aging that made you pause.
Are you truly concerned about this woman or do you just contemplate about her appearance out of boredom and curiosity?
If you are truly concerned for her well-being, perhaps you can offer a friendly ear. Perhaps she is going through something bad in her life and that's why she is not looking good. I believe that even if a woman has no interest in dating, she still should take care of herself, for her own self. Sounds like she is going through something right now, maybe depression or health issues.
Ok, all snideness aside, it was the breakup; she never got over you, you've ruined her for all other men. Is that what you wanted to hear?
Really she should try to keep herself up...with an ex that is such a stud and all!Really if your children have told you that it's not health related...it's no longer your concern!
Maybe she just doesn't give a f any more. Grey hair and a few more pounds- who cares? Maybe she is good with who she is. If she doesn't need to enter the workforce and isn't into getting back into the dating scene, what dif does it make?
Grey hair and a less than perfect bod don't necessarily equate to depression. Maybe she is just okay with herself now.
You pay the mortgae and give her $1000 a month. She has a decent job, so she can pay for whatever needs repairing around the house. Maybe you should just see your children and stop asking them about her business. You're divorced, doing whatever you agreed to do, so how much weight your ex has gained and how she chooses to look is none of your concern. Let it go.
Chaco..you are on here asking US why this is happening with your ex. However, you were at her house, and chose to say NOTHING. You just did your favors for her, and ran off and got on the computer asking US why she looks the way she does.
Why dont you call her up, and just CHAT with her. Ask her how her job is going, life in general, etc. Dont say, 'you look like total hell..what's wrong'?? But say something like she looked a little stressed or worried the last time you were over, and you just want to make sure nothing is going on in her life that's causing her issues. And if there is, would she like to talk about it. Use your imagination when talking to her. Like I said, dont come out and tell her she looks awful, but poke around during the conversation to see if you can come up with anything to account for her appearance, and then be supportive of her if she does tell you something.
THAT would be the right thing to do. Not ask us. We dont know her.
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!Really if your children have told you that it's not health related...it's no longer your concern
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