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Old 10-26-2011, 08:47 AM
 
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Well call me a hypocrite, bacause I care. A women who has slept with more than ten men is used up. You might as well be a porn star. I don't want somebody sloppy seconds. And like Chris Rock says what ever number a women tells you its probably much higher. They only count the sex they had with their boyfriends, they don't count all the other miscellaneous sexcapades they've had(Like the time they give head to the football team in high school.)
The only hypocrites that I can think of are those who have high numbers themselves. There's nothing wrong to say you care if you're still a virgin because that defeats the purpose of being a hypocrite.

No women is used up. Do you know what kind of background they come from? I don't think so.

If she tells you her real number, you'll doubt. If she says she's a virgin, she's lying.
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:13 AM
 
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Im not answering for them, but I keep records on each one of my past partners.
First and last names, and even dates, ratings, and phone numbers. I do it mainly because not all of them were serious relationships. Its nice to keep track.
while that works for you, I would not want to keep track.
There are some things I do love to remember and hold on to, but there are some things I wish I could forget.
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:19 AM
 
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52 is accurate. If you can't keep track, at least w/ a first name or face then THAT's a problem. It's easy, sit down one day and write 'em down. If it takes more than 30 min. to an hour, there are more pressing questions to ask one's self.

Thanks, I happen to think that not everything is black and white.
I disagree that there's a problem if you can't keep track with at least a name or face. Some people work hard to forget. Sometimes that works, sometimes it does not .... but I don't see it as necessarily a problem.


I was talking to my husband about this, and I think he touched upon what you brought up in an earlier post. (at least I think it was you....?)
He said the men would not bother him so much, the number would not bother him so much ... but the reason for the number could bother him depending.
If someone has been single for a large portion of their adult life, they could conceivably have a large number. If someone were single for a very short time of their adult life, but still had a large number, that might put up a few warning flags. Not necessarily a deal breaker, but might want to ask a few more questions and just find out a bit more about their personality and their mind-set; if that makes sense.

My number is 7, and yet for the life of me I cannot remember the name of the guy I lost my virginity to. Somewhere along the way I think I tried to forget him, and for the most part I did manage it. Now, I can't retrieve his name if I try........
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:29 AM
 
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I used to keep a score card in my 20s. I would write her name down and put slashes by her name every time we did real intercourse. I never counted oral sex on the stat sheet. Then I moved to a new city in 2008 and had sex with 9 women in the new city from 2008 til now. I have a girlfriend now so and the 9 women I had sex with I never added their names to the list. One thing I have always wanted to do was to climax in a women raw. Of all the women I have sexed. I have never done it. Even now when I climax in a condom I fill it with water and shake it. My girl makes slick comments about how Id be a great dad...Im like chill.....I think I have had sex with too many women. Manly due to anger and lack of trust. This thread makes me think about all those women...and I cant even remember all their names and I am sitting her trying to off the top of my head and maybe only remember like 18 names...the rest is like a blur. This thread makes me feel old and Im only 32 lol.
you sound a little like my husband (except for the score card; he says that he never kept one) but for a few years in his early 20's he was a very angry young man with a great many issues from his childhood that were unresolved. He tended to self medicate himself and then pick up women for no reason other than having sex that night. One day he decided that he did NOT like his lifestyle, he did NOT like having sex just for the sake of having sex and he did NOT like himself for acting this way. He got himself together and dealt with his issues. That does not mean he quit meeting women or having sex ... but he definitely went into it from a much healthier point of view. Many of the women he slept with he says he does not remember. Some he does, but not all. He does not know his 'number' just an estimate....
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:36 AM
 
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As a female, the number matters to me.

Hate to say it but I really don't have any interest in man-whores (those that sleep around and hook up without having a relationship). It speaks to their character and the type of person they are.
agree ...... as I wrote in a previous post, my husband did have some rather bad character traits early in his 20's. He did not respect himself, and he did not respect women. He often tells me I would not have liked him had I known him then....
but I know his childhood, I know from where he was coming.
I also know that he was NOT happy with that lifestyle and changed it and himself.
He says he used to look at women as body parts, but now he looks at women as women.

So ... while the number does matter to me, the reasons behind the number also matter.
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:38 AM
 
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If she slept with a bunch of guys and wouldn't with me I would be worried.
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:39 AM
 
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Not really, unless it involved animals, football teams, basketball teams, or any combination of the three....


so the Navy is OK?
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:41 AM
 
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Well call me a hypocrite, bacause I care. A women who has slept with more than ten men is used up. You might as well be a porn star. I don't want somebody sloppy seconds. And like Chris Rock says what ever number a women tells you its probably much higher. They only count the sex they had with their boyfriends, they don't count all the other miscellaneous sexcapades they've had(Like the time they give head to the football team in high school.)
Chris Rock be damned, my number is 7. period.
that includes any and all types of sex ... I have no reason to lie.
I'm not happy with seven, but that is what it is.

and I have never given head to the football team while in high school or at any other time.......
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Old 10-26-2011, 09:54 AM
 
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Well call me a hypocrite, bacause I care. A women who has slept with more than ten men is used up. You might as well be a porn star. I don't want somebody sloppy seconds. And like Chris Rock says what ever number a women tells you its probably much higher. They only count the sex they had with their boyfriends, they don't count all the other miscellaneous sexcapades they've had(Like the time they give head to the football team in high school.)
Is there some reason you have different standards for women in this situation?
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Old 10-26-2011, 10:06 AM
 
Location: Houston, Tx
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Chris Rock be damned, my number is 7. period.
that includes any and all types of sex ... I have no reason to lie.
I'm not happy with seven, but that is what it is.

and I have never given head to the football team while in high school or at any other time.......
LOL, I didn't say you did.

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Is there some reason you have different standards for women in this situation?
Who says I do, there are women on here who said they wouldn't want a man who slept with a bunch of different women and that sounds reasonable to me.
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