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Your question confuses me, but speaking from a 22 year old perspective, emotional change is not just about controlling my emotions but growth in areas of the Eight Stages of Development (basic trust vs. mistrust, autonomy vs shame, etc). The most important lesson (for me) is learning to love myself because it allows me to grow healthy in these eight stages of development. I learn to look at people and life differently than when I was 18 even though it has only been 4 years. I think you can't limit to just experience because research says that we don't cognitively mature until 25 or so.
Though it was quite a while ago for me, by the age of 28 or 30, I was much more sure of myself, happier, felt like a real grown up, enjoyed sex 100% more, was more adventurous, pickier about who I would go out with, and far more worldly (I had lived in Africa for 2 years and had traveled all over the world during my mid 20s.) The difference in my maturity level between those ages was like night and day.
Comes with age and simply "Life". I think hardships in life either make you stronger or make you bitter. Knowing what is important to get upset about and what is not. To learn how to deal with others because you met these people before. Life how ever is a never ending roller coaster in which we can't get off unless we go to far. I have an "invisible mood ring that is glued to my finger. If I'm feeling great I can handle anything otherwise out comes on situations can and will fluctuate.
One huge change I notice with women is at 20, they are likely not looking for anything serious and just want to have fun; while at 28, they are looking to settle down.
At 20, I was still in college, working retail and my biggest ambitions, besides finishing school was pleasing my boyfriend, drinking, partying, staying up late getting into trouble, being/looking sexy, have the latest clothes, knowing the lastest slang and trends, knowing all the latest misuc videos and artists. My whole world revolved around having fun and looking good.
By 28 I was still interested in drinking and partying but it was getting old. I really wanted to mee "the one" so I could settle down, get married, have babies. Looking good was still an interest but more interest was on furthering my career, saving for the future, becoming more financial secure and learning more about the world, politics, arts and cultures.
Aside from the maturity considerations alone, how exactly do women change emotionally, from between the ages of say 20-30?
This is one question that has intrigued me for quite some time now, if only b/c most women simply usually aren't the same as they were on an emotional level, between the two age brackets. And not just emotionally, but personality-wise as well. Something pretty fundamental seems to change, within that time frame...
What I don't quite understand though, is what is it specifically, that changes? And why? Again, aside from the obvious increases in maturity, as they get older?
Not trying to ask a dumb question here or anything...honestly just curious is all...
My friend, the difference between 20 and 28 in an emotionally healthy young lady is like the difference between the best high school football team and the best NFL team - it's HUGE.
There are plenty of over 35's who still behave like 20 year olds as well.
Take it on an individual basis. No blanket rule for this one.
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And why? Again, aside from the obvious increases in maturity, as they get older?
