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Old 10-29-2011, 03:02 AM
 
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Aside from the maturity considerations alone, how exactly do women change emotionally, from between the ages of say 20-30?

This is one question that has intrigued me for quite some time now, if only b/c most women simply usually aren't the same as they were on an emotional level, between the two age brackets. And not just emotionally, but personality-wise as well. Something pretty fundamental seems to change, within that time frame...

What I don't quite understand though, is what is it specifically, that changes? And why? Again, aside from the obvious increases in maturity, as they get older?

Not trying to ask a dumb question here or anything...honestly just curious is all...

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Old 10-29-2011, 03:10 AM
 
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It really depends upon what you experience during that time. (Having kids, a career, marriage)

However...in general for me the change was night and day.

Less self centered.
More emotionally balanced.
Realistic expectations.
Less judgmental.
Less demanding.

Why? Well you just get a chance to experience life as an adult. At 20 I had pretty high expectations and hopes. You want a perfect life. At 28
you learn what is realistic to expect. You learn by then people are not perfect. You have you dreams dashed and heart broken a few times.
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Old 10-29-2011, 03:18 AM
 
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It really depends upon what you experience during that time. (Having kids, a career, marriage)

However...in general for me the change was night and day.

Less self centered.
More emotionally balanced.
Realistic expectations.
Less judgmental.
Less demanding.

Why? Well you just get a chance to experience life as an adult. At 20 I had pretty high expectations and hopes. You want a perfect life. At 28
you learn what is realistic to expect. You learn by then people are not perfect. You have you dreams dashed and heart broken a few times.
Many thanks for your helpful feedback and comments lyra33!
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Old 10-29-2011, 04:27 AM
 
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It really depends upon what you experience during that time. (Having kids, a career, marriage)

However...in general for me the change was night and day.

Less self centered.
More emotionally balanced.
Realistic expectations.
Less judgmental.
Less demanding.

Why? Well you just get a chance to experience life as an adult. At 20 I had pretty high expectations and hopes. You want a perfect life. At 28
you learn what is realistic to expect. You learn by then people are not perfect. You have you dreams dashed and heart broken a few times.
Though I have not hit 28 yet, I learned these lessons at a young age.

I think as I get older im becoming less and less emotional; it seems as if most women tend to get more emotional between 20-28, and more likely to settle for less after 28.
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Old 10-29-2011, 06:19 AM
 
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Even if you're given some pointers and opinions, how will knowing any of them benefit you? I am curious about your curiosity. How would you answer the question if the genders were reversed (presuming that you're old enough to have an opinion)?
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Old 10-29-2011, 06:27 AM
 
Location: Harrisonburg, VA
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Women after 28 - Less picky
Guys after 28 - More picky
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Old 10-29-2011, 06:39 AM
 
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Though I have not hit 28 yet, I learned these lessons at a young age.

I think as I get older im becoming less and less emotional; it seems as if most women tend to get more emotional between 20-28, and more likely to settle for less after 28.
OP, for me it happened at a slightly older age. I accepted that people looked out for their interests just like I did. This made me less self-centered, less judgmental, and less emotional. It also meant I had to trust my instincts, learn from my mistakes and allow others to do the same.

I quoted the above post because I do wonder if it is possible to learn this at a much younger age. I believe the answer is "yes" if given the opportunity to.
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Old 10-29-2011, 06:44 AM
 
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It is not about age it is about experiences.
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Old 10-29-2011, 08:03 AM
 
Location: ON, Canada
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It is not about age it is about experiences.
I agree with this. But I also think it's a bit of a combination. I find, and many of my friends have found, that you become more comfortable in your own skin, more focused on yourself and who you're becoming, regardless of what other people think. In your earlier years, you may make choices based on approval from peers, whereas in your 30s, you realize that doesn't matter anymore.

Less shallow, more centered and comfortable with myself, less concerned with what other people think of me, focused more on the big picture of life rather than just what's happening today or on the weekend. More of a devoted friend, less tolerant of other people's b.s.
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Old 10-29-2011, 08:34 AM
 
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The main thing I can think of is stuff related to becoming increasingly entrenched in a career track, and the learning/experiences that come with that.

I would say, also the possibility of becoming more comfortable in one's own skin and less dependent upon the approval of others, but that's something that varies wildly person to person, regardless of gender. Some people never get to that point, let alone in their twenties. But many do.

Some people will doubtless say that women become more focused on biological clock stuff/beginning a family during this window, but speaking for myself, I wasn't anymore feeling like it was "kid time" at 28 than I was at 20. It wasn't a focus at either end of that age range, for me.
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