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Old 10-29-2011, 08:29 PM
 
Location: Somewhere out there...
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So, we were invited to a few Halloween parties and mr. Boring doesn't want to go, he never does. I said I would go alone, but Mr. Passive Aggressive says, "It nice that you can go out"..what??? we were both invited. I sit home year after year doing nothing, I'm sick of it. He says fiiiinnne, I'll just sit here and watch the kids. I say, fine. you do that. He gives me the whiny eyeball, knowing he will complain forever if I go. So, here I am. Sitting at the table, drinking wine, he's watching a movie and we seem to have gained extra kids for a sleep over. Whatever!!!!!

Oh, and Happy Halloween Party Night, lets party in cyber world!
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Old 10-29-2011, 08:35 PM
 
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How long have you been married?

Your husband sounds VERY similar to mine...except I've gotten to the point where I WON'T stay home anymore if he doesn't want to go. I just go without him.
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Old 10-29-2011, 08:37 PM
 
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well, I dealt with mine by getting a divorce .... but that may not work for everyone.
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Old 10-29-2011, 08:38 PM
 
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17 very long years.
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Old 10-29-2011, 08:49 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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If my husband didn't want to go and I did I would go.
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Old 10-29-2011, 08:56 PM
 
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17 very long years.
Oh you are more tolerant that I am! We are celebrating 14yrs married this Nov. (we've been together almost 20).

You don't have accept every invitation but you shouldn't sit home ALL the time either. That would drive me nuts. Next time he says "I'll just sit home with the kids" just respond with "okay, have fun with that!"

He'll eventually tire of it and join you or he won't. But at least you won't have 2 miserable people sitting there looking at eachother.
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Old 10-29-2011, 08:59 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Sometimes spouses should do their own thing, nothing wrong with that.

We all can be a little complacent in our relationships, take each other for granted, heck, it's human nature, to a degree. We should try to mix it up once in a while.

If you try and he doesn't... IDK, I don't what to say..... but try, 17 yrs is at least worth that.

Isn't it??

The fantasy guy doesn't exist. Trust me, once the newness of a new relationship fades a bit and the "real" person comes out, that is where we need to be able to stand back and have realistic views of what we expect out of relationships.

I sometimes think that people put to much personal "salvation" into finding someone else. The old tried and true thing about being comfortable in your own skin thing applies at times. Not saying that the OP is doing this, just saying...........

That being said, of all the things that I do to drive Mrs. Chow nuts, being boring isn't one of them.
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Old 10-29-2011, 09:12 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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I'm married to the "boring" guy my best friend has been married to two "life of the party" guys!Believe me after the party is over they are not easy to deal with...high maintainence??You have no idea! Do what I do...live your own life(within reason) and hope hubby catches on to the fun!!
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Old 10-29-2011, 09:20 PM
 
Location: Biltmore area of Phoenix
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Liven it up by having an affair.
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Old 10-29-2011, 09:23 PM
 
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You don't marry a boring person to begin with. That seems almost impossibly basic. People don't just "turn boring," they are boring as kids, teenagers and then as grown ups.

You married someone that was a big bore, you have no one but yourself to blame.

Seriously, your marriage sounds like hell and you're unhappy. Talk to him about it, show him your post and go from there. But don't expect to turn someone you find "boring" into Mr. Excitement. You both sound incompatible in the extreme.
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