She was head over heels in love this morning, by evening she erases my number from her cell phone (men, personality)

[Spindle]

Originally Posted by mysticguy9

I have been seeing this woman as friends for months now, but we both know there is something more than just friendship. She had told me that she does not want to be romantically involved until her divorce is final in couple of months.

Saturday night she came to my place to watch a movie and then one thing led to another and we kissed with no pressure from me whatsoever. We spent talking and kissing until the next morning. Nothing beyond kissing. She did not seem shook up with ethics as she is religious. so she kept sending me loving texts all day. Suddenly in the evening she started texting one after the other as how guilty she feels and that this is unhealthy, that she does not want to see me again, and that she only kissed and hugged me because she felt lonely and vulnerable. She asked me not to contact her and She said she is deleting my number from her cell phone and will wait until her divorce is final.

I am frankly left stumped and shocked. I don't know what to make of this hoping someone out there does. She had warned me about 2 weeks ago that she has anger problem related to her PMS. Is it her PMS? Is she done with me?

lol you have a real keeper there

[Mikala43]

"I've been seeing a woman as FRIENDS, she doesn not want to become ROMANTICALLY involved....


Where, exactly, are you seeing she is head over heels in love?!!!

[cremebrulee]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

"I've been seeing a woman as FRIENDS, she doesn not want to become ROMANTICALLY involved....


Where, exactly, are you seeing she is head over heels in love?!!!

The OP Said the following....

I have been seeing this woman as friends for months now, but we both know there is something more than just friendship. She had told me that she does not want to be romantically involved until her divorce is final in couple of months.

Did he say she was head over heals in love? He stated she doesn't want to become romantically involved, until her divorce is final...(AS IT SHOULD BE) you can't simply jump in and out of relationships, that is not normal...it speaks volumns about her intellect, and awareness....divorce is an emotional roller coaster at which time, to involve someone else in that is irresponsible, not to mention, she hasn't had near enough time to get her ducks in a row...

he said she sent him loving texts all day...then she says she didn't want to see him anymore...
to me that speaks volumns, she realizes now is not a good time, she doesn't want to use him or hurt him...

We've become a society of people who are unable to comprehend what we read, me included, b/c I do that to now and then.....

[malamute]

All it would be is a rebound relationship anyhow. She just wants some drama in her life, the husband is getting out of the picture. Just let her go.

[Liberty2011]

Originally Posted by cremebrulee

The OP Said the following....



Did he say she was head over heals in love? He stated she doesn't want to become romantically involved, until her divorce is final...(AS IT SHOULD BE) you can't simply jump in and out of relationships, that is not normal...it speaks volumns about her intellect, and awareness....divorce is an emotional roller coaster at which time, to involve someone else in that is irresponsible, not to mention, she hasn't had near enough time to get her ducks in a row...

he said she sent him loving texts all day...then she says she didn't want to see him anymore...
to me that speaks volumns, she realizes now is not a good time, she doesn't want to use him or hurt him...

We've become a society of people who are unable to comprehend what we read, me included, b/c I do that to now and then.....

The subject line of the post says she was head over heels in love in the morning...

[just anotherguy]

she had her orgasim while you 2 were on the couch sucking face and is good for a while-- move on you will find someone worthwhile in due time

[mysticguy9]

Originally Posted by zentropa

OP, what makes you think she was "head over heels" with you in the first place? Sounds to me like she was in a vulnerable place, let her glands get the best of her and now wants to take it back. Can't you respect that?

I realize that being head over heels is not necessarily an indication of true love. For anyone who has trouble understanding the subject line: I stand by the statement as I I cannot possible condense two months of relationship in two paragraphs. I know it and feel it, my friends have said so by just the way she talks and treats me.

Update: She contacted me yesterday and apologized for overreacting. She said that she did not erase my number and is no longer worried about the slip and wants to spend time together again, but slowly until the time is right. But I am now ambivalent and have not decided what to do. I am taking the advice I receive on here seriously..except for the wacky ones asking me to bang her and lose her.

[LuckyGem]

Like most of us said... allow her to contact you. She's the one dealing with the dissolution of her marriage. She's got a lot going on in her personal life right now and knows she doesn't need anything complicating her relationships.

She's going to be the one to decide when the relationship takes off, it doesn't matter if you're ready right now or not... It takes two to make a relationship, and that's when both people decide to make a go of it, not one.

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by cremebrulee

The OP Said the following....



Did he say she was head over heals in love? He stated she doesn't want to become romantically involved, until her divorce is final...(AS IT SHOULD BE) you can't simply jump in and out of relationships, that is not normal...it speaks volumns about her intellect, and awareness....divorce is an emotional roller coaster at which time, to involve someone else in that is irresponsible, not to mention, she hasn't had near enough time to get her ducks in a row...

he said she sent him loving texts all day...then she says she didn't want to see him anymore...
to me that speaks volumns, she realizes now is not a good time, she doesn't want to use him or hurt him...

We've become a society of people who are unable to comprehend what we read, me included, b/c I do that to now and then.....

His thread title says "she was head over heels in love this morning..."

[lottamoxie]

mysticguy,

Glad she contacted you. Tread carefully and know that she may freak out again, possibly sooner than later, but basically, if she freaked out once, there could be more to go until she resolves her situation and her contradictory feelings. She has some work to do, possibly in therapy. You can't do this for her--she needs to figure this out. Don't fall into the trap of becoming her 'therapist' for those soul-searching talks.