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Old 10-31-2011, 10:58 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Question Sign of emotional detachment?

Not sure about the majority but when I'm interested in someone, I want to know all kinds of things about them, what interests them and whatnot. Not necessarily how many people they've been with or whom they were with last or anything of that nature, but little things, their likes and dislikes, pet peeves, and so on.

But what if someone you're interested in and seeing doesn't want to know or ask any of these things about you? Does that mean they prefer to remain emotionally detached? How can you be really interested in someone and not want to know little things about them? Or is that a typical guy thing?

(Not about whom I am seeing but a male friend who is this way with women he's dated-even when he is supposedly serious about her)
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Old 10-31-2011, 11:10 PM
 
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It could be, but most likely he may be either caught up in himself and not think to ask you questions about yourself, or he could be too shy/feel like he's being nosy or something, or maybe you make him nervous. It's hard to know for sure but it could be one of these possibilities.
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Old 10-31-2011, 11:16 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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It could be, but most likely he may be either caught up in himself and not think to ask you questions about yourself, or he could be too shy/feel like he's being nosy or something, or maybe you make him nervous. It's hard to know for sure but it could be one of these possibilities.
Well, as I said, it's not about my guy but a friend of mine. He's not the shy type at all. I just don't see how you can get to know someone without knowing the little things about them. If that's nosy, I guess I am then because I want to know.
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Old 11-01-2011, 12:18 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Occams razor...hes interested but doesn't care about little things.
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Old 11-01-2011, 01:46 AM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Occams razor...hes interested but doesn't care about little things.
Is that a typical guy thing? So if she talks to him about this little crap is it going to turn him off or bore him?
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Old 11-01-2011, 02:24 AM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Come to think of it, he sure did spill a lot about himself for someone who doesn't care about little things. And some weren't so little. I'm thinking it's a little self-absorption too.
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Old 11-01-2011, 03:01 AM
 
Location: SWUS
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It may be a bit of self-absorbedness, or shyness, but personally, I just have trouble asking dumb questions like "what's your favorite color" or whatever. I'd rather have a normal conversation, and those things come out in time.

Then again, I'm a bit socially awkward, but still- I'd rather just BS than ask dumb questions like that. Some are alright ("how did you end up in ___________?" or "what do you like to do for fun?" ) but other than that...
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Old 11-01-2011, 03:09 AM
 
Location: Harrisonburg, VA
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It may be a bit of self-absorbedness, or shyness, but personally, I just have trouble asking dumb questions like "what's your favorite color" or whatever. I'd rather have a normal conversation, and those things come out in time.

Then again, I'm a bit socially awkward, but still- I'd rather just BS than ask dumb questions like that. Some are alright ("how did you end up in ___________?" or "what do you like to do for fun?" ) but other than that...
I don't think any question can be classified as dumb. Perhaps some questions have more value then others...it really depends on the person being asked and how they feel about a given question. Now to the topic at hand..some people simply don't care.
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Old 11-01-2011, 03:21 AM
 
Location: SWUS
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Okay, perhaps "dumb" was the wrong word to describe it, so let me clarify- I'd rather ask more important questions.

OP: other posters are right, some people truly don't care, or would rather find out as things go on.
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Old 11-01-2011, 03:29 AM
 
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Okay, perhaps "dumb" was the wrong word to describe it, so let me clarify- I'd rather ask more important questions.

OP: other posters are right, some people truly don't care, or would rather find out as things go on.
I'm the same way. Maybe not dumb but for whatever reason I get embarrassed about asking such ... Er... Simple questions.
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