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Old 11-11-2011, 04:46 PM
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It really depends on stage of life more than anything, as in where she is relative to where you are.

For example, if you're, say, a sophomore in college, the age difference between you and a sophomore in high school is only four years. But that's a huge difference in mentality. If you're 28 and 24, it's no big deal.

If you're 30 and she's 20, however, that's a big deal. 40 and 30? No big deal.

But 60 and 20? You're getting into a weird breakaway sect of the Mormon church there.
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Old 11-11-2011, 04:55 PM
Location: Tucson
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Originally Posted by Horizonite View Post
So many haters!
I was 34 and she was 17 (legal in Texas). We married several years later and are happily raising four children. I'm 50 now and she's 33.

I endured countless derogatory comments throughout the years which at first bothered me. My wife passed it off as jealousy but I was skeptical because of the social stigma. The truth is, I felt very uncomfortable at the beginning (but not enough to break it off ).

Then one day I asked a male hater a question and then another the same question and so forth (Most of the haters were close to my age, by the way). The answer was yes, 90% of the time. What was the question? "If my wife had a twin sister, would you go on a double date with us?" Seems my wife was right after all! I might add that my wife is athletic and very attractive.

So now when males make negative comments, I know that 9 out of 10 are actually jealous. You know who you are and most of you are married! When females make negative comments, well, that's another can of worms that I don't want to open!

There are several studies showing that marriages which have a 10+ year age gap have significantly lower divorce rates.

Okay. I'm done. Please, no "what about when you're 75 and she's 58" questions. We'll cross that bridge when we get there.
Yep, it's all about jealousy - from both genders. Men envy you and women don't want a woman so much younger in their circles because that may give their men ideas.
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Old 11-11-2011, 11:32 PM
Location: SF Bay Area
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ View Post
Yep, it's all about jealousy - from both genders. Men envy you and women don't want a woman so much younger in their circles because that may give their men ideas.
I think you nailed it - and there sure is no shortage of jealousy out there, is there?

The fact of the matter is that men are hard-wired to be attracted to young, child-bearing age women for life. It's very simple....and it never changes. Nature made it that way.....for procreation is, after all, the reason for the attraction in the first place.

I look at a 22 year old attractive woman exactly the same way today at 62 that I did at 22. Now, does that mean I have any illusions about her noticing me? Of course not. And, is there lots more to a successful relationship? Of course.

So the answer to the original question asked is that it's completely irrational to attach a "perverted" label at any age to attraction to or "liking" younger women. It's mother nature functioning normally.
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