Hey any other childfree people here? (depression, emotional, living, wife)

[90sman]

I don't understand how someone COULDN'T want kids. The adults I know who want to remain childless, I've noticed tend to be more arrogant and selfish. Like they think they're better than children or parents. They also seem more mentally immature as well. There are those who seem to think that having a high powered career and fancy things is more important than having a family. As a saying I've heard goes, "you can replace a career but you can't replace a family." And then there are those who dislike, even hate children. I also don't understand how you can dislike children, it's basically a contradiction. EVERYONE was a child at one point in their lives. You must a really angry and ill person to dislike children.

Yes, you deal with the early years of exhaustion from waking up in the middle of the night and changing diapers but the rewards that come from the fulfillment of parenthood far surpasses the cons of parenthood. It was also in God's designs for us to have children.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by 90sman

I don't understand how someone COULDN'T want kids. The adults I know who want to remain childless, I've noticed tend to be more arrogant and selfish. Like they think they're better than children or parents. They also seem more mentally immature as well. They also seem to think that having a high powered career and fancy things is more important than having a family. As a saying I've heard goes, "you can replace a career but you can't replace a family."

Yes, you deal with the early years of exhaustion from waking up in the middle of the night and changing diapers but the rewards that come from the fulfillment of parenthood far surpasses the cons of parenthood. It was also in God's designs for us to have children.

Usually people who don't have kids are the most judgmental on the parents with kids. Or think they know stuff about a child and how they should act. And unfortunately it's this way but many times I prefer advice from other parents or older parents.

[steelstress]

Originally Posted by 90sman

I don't understand how someone COULDN'T want kids. The adults I know who want to remain childless, I've noticed tend to be more arrogant and selfish. Like they think they're better than children or parents. They also seem more mentally immature as well. There are those who seem to think that having a high powered career and fancy things is more important than having a family. As a saying I've heard goes, "you can replace a career but you can't replace a family." And then there are those who dislike, even hate children. I also don't understand how you can dislike children, it's basically a contradiction. EVERYONE was a child at one point in their lives. You must a really angry and ill person to dislike children.

Yes, you deal with the early years of exhaustion from waking up in the middle of the night and changing diapers but the rewards that come from the fulfillment of parenthood far surpasses the cons of parenthood. It was also in God's designs for us to have children.

You need to go back and read the original question, which is "why don't you wish to have kids". Not... what do you think of those who doin't wish to have kids and tell all that you hate about them.

Here's my reason I don't wish to have kids: I simply don't have the desire to be a parent, and I'm quite indifferent to kids. If they're around, fine. If they're not, that's fine too. I'd hate the lifestyle of parenthood. It's simply too much work and I already have a full time job. Why would I do that to myself?

[itshim]

Originally Posted by 90sman

I don't understand how someone COULDN'T want kids. The adults I know who want to remain childless, I've noticed tend to be more arrogant and selfish. Like they think they're better than children or parents. They also seem more mentally immature as well. There are those who seem to think that having a high powered career and fancy things is more important than having a family. As a saying I've heard goes, "you can replace a career but you can't replace a family." And then there are those who dislike, even hate children. I also don't understand how you can dislike children, it's basically a contradiction. EVERYONE was a child at one point in their lives. You must a really angry and ill person to dislike children.

Yes, you deal with the early years of exhaustion from waking up in the middle of the night and changing diapers but the rewards that come from the fulfillment of parenthood far surpasses the cons of parenthood. It was also in God's designs for us to have children.

I don't understand why its so difficult for some to understand that not everyone' lives vicariously through their children and families. Some people base the pupose of their existence on having children and caring for a family. Some people are far more individualistic (call it "selfish") and live primarily for themselves. There are certainly pros and cons to both ends. What you're describing is an episode of "My Three Sons" "Father knows Best" "Leave it to Beaver" etc etc where family life is all fun and games, when in reality having kids doesn't gaurantee you anything.

[bellakin123]

Originally Posted by reed067

Slap your head all you want those things worry me. Raising a child is hard enough without having to worry if you can trust someone to watch your kids. Or some nosy women/man calling DSS on you these days. Sorry if you don't agree.

It sounds like the reason you wouldn't want kids is because of what someone else might do. That's not reasonable.

[bellakin123]

Originally Posted by Raena77

It is a big responsibility to have a child. You do constantly have to put them first. And worry about many things. But you will find methods that work. Sitters that are reliable and family that is there for you. And make yourself involved with his or her daily routine. I find many people who do have kids are not selfish. Some are extremely loving. There is no greater reward than the love of your own.

But I do understand why people don't. There is no pain like a baby pain. Lol. Sleepless nights. Cleaning poop and vomit. Worry if they had enough to eat, school, clothes, sports,activities, homework, projects and so much more. It's a additional job. It takes a special person to do this.

^^Well said

[strawberrykiki]

Originally Posted by 90sman

I don't understand how someone COULDN'T want kids. The adults I know who want to remain childless, I've noticed tend to be more arrogant and selfish. Like they think they're better than children or parents. They also seem more mentally immature as well. There are those who seem to think that having a high powered career and fancy things is more important than having a family. As a saying I've heard goes, "you can replace a career but you can't replace a family." And then there are those who dislike, even hate children. I also don't understand how you can dislike children, it's basically a contradiction. EVERYONE was a child at one point in their lives. You must a really angry and ill person to dislike children.

Yes, you deal with the early years of exhaustion from waking up in the middle of the night and changing diapers but the rewards that come from the fulfillment of parenthood far surpasses the cons of parenthood. It was also in God's designs for us to have children.

I think this is a pretty unfair opinion about people who don't want to have kids. What's wrong with someone choosing career over kids? Some people like spending their time and money however they please. It doesn't make somoene a horrible selfish person because they don't want kids. Kids are a life long responsiblity. I'm 28 and I still frequently consult my parents for advice. You're a parent until the day you die. Who is someone else to judge another person's decision not to have a lifetime responsiblity to another person? I get tired of the mind set that if a person chooses to work hard at their career and travel or do whatever instead of get married and stay at home with 3 kids that they are somehow not living a full life. I don't mean to put words in your mouth, but this is still the attitude so many people seem to have today.

[reed067]

Originally Posted by bellakin123

It sounds like the reason you wouldn't want kids is because of what someone else might do. That's not reasonable.

There is more to it then that, but yes that is one reason why. And it is VERY reasonable.

[Ulysses61]

I want to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. If my husband and I want to spend Xmas in Italy, we go. If we want to have sex on the middle of the living room rug at 2:00 on a Saturday afternoon, we do. No kids bugging us or impeding our lives.

I have no interest to go to kids' soccer games, recitals, teacher conferences or anything else. I don't want the responsibility, the expense or the boredom of having kids. Changing diapers? Not for me. Cleaning up their messes? No way.

I can't imagine anyone wondering why millions of people choose not to have children. Why would anyone want to force children on those who have zero interest in being around children, much less spending 20 years raising them? I am been perfectly happy, content and fulfilled with my career and my husband. I have thanked God a thousand times I was never foolish enough to ruin my life by being tied down to a child.

[Ulysses61]

It was also in God's designs for us to have children.

ROTFL!

There's nothing to respond to here. I guess it doesn't occur to this person that billions of people in this world don't believe in God. What kind of supposedly merciful God would want people who don't want children to forceably have them? What for? To abuse them, beat them, belittle them or abandon them? An inspired "design," no?