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Well I'm selfish because I just splurge on a new handbag. It is cuter than a baby!
I want a new Brenthaven messenger bag like crazy. What I want even more is a 27" computer monitor for my beloved Mac laptops.
Actually, I'm holding out for the monitor. I don't like expensive jewelry, so I need to give the S.O. a semblance of a "wish list" for birthdays, Christmas, etc.
Congrats! I don't have children and have been married a long time. I got tired of the many questions regarding our childfree status. After I would say no don't have any, that should have been it but I always got asked why which was followed by 'you'll change your mind' which to ME is about as rude as you can get. I never ask a parent if they will regret their choice or say they will change their mind about having their kid.
I started answering 'God no!' to the do you have kids question. Stopped all the follow up questions. Sounds pretty strong but really shuts up those lacking in manners about all things personal. Now I WILL go into more detail with friends, but a random person making small talk, no.
I dont have kids either, but that is just because I never met the right person and got married. At 45, that ship has pretty much sailed unless I adopt. However, I dont particularly care for kids, and dont have a strong maternal instict either. So I guess It doesnt matter all that much.
Best to be free of this relationship. Not a supportive person to say the least. Sorry it ended this way. You will eventually find someone who appreciates you for you and not what you can give them (kid).
Cats are wonderful. They won't treat you like sh*t just because you won't go along with a life script suited for someone else.
No they won't. But if you don't wake up right now and give them their gushie food they will give you quite the meowing!
I am only 18 but I am pretty sure that I never want children, I don't like kids now so I can't imagine I would enjoy having my own, and I want to be able to have freedom to do whatever I want, go on vacation whenever I want and spend my money on myself...
This is interesting to read because I often wonder what my life will be like in 10-15 years when everyone I know has kids except for me...
Hopefully, you will be saving for your retirement and perhaps getting a little travel in, enriching your knowledge, appreciation for life, and conversation.
Use the time to further your career, work some overtime, go to school. If you want to waste it, you'd might just as well have kids.
I had a son and my life was a mess..I had no life outside of caring for him working to give him the things he needed, doing without so he could have ...never went anywhere, stopped doing the things I enjoyed mostly. I loved him more than anyone. But looking back I was wrong in giving up so much and not having a life during the best years of my life. He killed himself at age 16 and I had to learn to live all over again. If I had to do it all over again, I wonder...I'm glad I knew him for the 16 years but I wouldn't give up so much.... For 16 years I was a slave to my husband and my son...My marriage broke up when my son was 8 and then I lived with someone else and that broke up in 2001 and I have been alone since then and these are the best years of my life and I finally can say it without feeling guilty. Society conditions us and we are such "herd animals" that we want to fit in whether we agree or not and that's why I now say don't do what you feel isn't for you!
Oh, Maggie,
I am so happy that now you are living the life that suits you.
You're right, so many women are conditioned to follow in the footsteps of tradition. The world's population, being what it is, no longer makes it some sort of imperative that we replicate ourselves.
There are many downsides to having such a large population, especially to the environment, but there is a silver lining in some clouds, and this cloud gives women the opportunity to find themselves.
Your story repeats those of many women. My mom lost herself in duties to family. I think she thought of herself, deep inside, as having little value but in her ability to serve others.
I wish you many more fulfilling days.
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