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I am of the mindset, that if you're truly interested in a particular person, then you're not going to be fulfilled/content with other people. When people are really in love, that one person will already be meeting their needs, and they won't have a desire to look elsewhere, because they're satisfied.
If you can't see yourself totally committed to that one person, and you feel a "need" to look elsewhere to meet the rest of your needs, then a long term relationship won't work for you.
I am of the mindset, that if you're truly interested in a particular person, then you're not going to be fulfilled/content with other people. When people are really in love, that one person will already be meeting their needs, and they won't have a desire to look elsewhere, because they're satisfied.
If you can't see yourself totally committed to that one person, and you feel a "need" to look elsewhere to meet the rest of your needs, then a long term relationship won't work for you.
You think like a typical woman. We have been on a few dates, how can I be in love or committed to someone I hardly now? I would be committed to the person if we both decided to go steady and start a relationship. Until then, I don't feel any need to be loyal, or feel obligated to be exclusive with someone I hardly know.
You think like a typical woman. We have been on a few dates, how can I be in love or committed to someone I hardly now? I would be committed to the person if we both decided to go steady and start a relationship. Until then, I don't feel any need to be loyal, or feel obligated to be exclusive with someone I hardly know.
Oh, please. A few weeks ago you were saying that you'd make the woman you are seeing now into a girlfriend "in a heartbeat."
Oh, please. A few weeks ago you were saying that you'd make the woman you are seeing now into a girlfriend "in a heartbeat."
Is there trouble in paradise?
Well, not exactly trouble but we have come to a point where I don't know where this is going to go. I remember one of our conversations about kids and marriage and honestly, I could tell marriage and kids mean a lot to her.
Honestly, I do not have any desire to have kids(at least right now), and I really do not want to have kids(a huge deal to me) just because that is what a woman wants.
I still need more time to see where this is going to go, we are taking it slow but if gets to a point where kids and marriage are a deal breaker, at least today, I would choose my personal freedom over the bondage of bringing kids into this world.
You think like a typical woman. We have been on a few dates, how can I be in love or committed to someone I hardly now? I would be committed to the person if we both decided to go steady and start a relationship. Until then, I don't feel any need to be loyal, or feel obligated to be exclusive with someone I hardly know.
...So you like the idea of a LTR with someone else on the side. You're only willing to "take your time" because you know your "needs" are met elsewhere. You can't be thinking of having a LTR with one person while still itching to remain intimate with another. You are the one insisting you don't want to labeled, yet your actions speak for themselves... .
You can try to play innocent, but I think you know the answer: If you're still satisfied with your physical needs being met elsewhere (and aren't convinced this women can meet them), after knowing this person at least a few months, then this women obviously isn't really "enough" for you as a LTR. Instead of stringing her along, be honest with yourself, and let her go, so she can find someone who's really ready for a LTR--and shares her needs/desires (re: kids).
Well, not exactly trouble but we have come to a point where I don't know where this is going to go. I remember one of our conversations about kids and marriage and honestly, I could tell marriage and kids mean a lot to her.
Honestly, I do not have any desire to have kids(at least right now), and I really do not want to have kids(a huge deal to me) just because that is what a woman wants.
I still need more time to see where this is going to go, we are taking it slow but if gets to a point where kids and marriage are a deal breaker, at least today, I would choose my personal freedom over the bondage of bringing kids into this world.
We will see what happens!
You've only been seeing each other for a couple of months, right?
How did the subject come up? Generic, like "yeah, I'd like to have a family someday, and could you pass the salt, please?" Or specific, like, "I'd like to settle down sometime in the next couple of years and have a few children. I'm at the point in my life where I'm looking for a partner, and if things work out, I could see him being you."
Generic is one thing, but it's too soon to go beyond that if you've only been dating a few months--especially if you are not sleeping together or you haven't declared that you are being exclusive. Not long ago you were talking about emotional push-and-pull. It doesn't sound like your relationship is being taken that seriously by either of you.
You've only been seeing each other for a couple of months, right?
How did the subject come up? Generic, like "yeah, I'd like to have a family someday, and could you pass the salt, please?" Or specific, like, "I'd like to settle down sometime in the next couple of years and have a few children. I'm at the point in my life where I'm looking for a partner, and if things work out, I could see him being you."
Generic is one thing, but it's too soon to go beyond that if you've only been dating a few months--especially if you are not sleeping together or you haven't declared that you are being exclusive. Not long ago you were talking about emotional push-and-pull. It doesn't sound like your relationship is being taken that seriously by either of you.
Well, on our second date, we were at a play and somehow, this topic came up, I think she asked me if I wanted to get married and have kids, I did not say NO, but I think I said something like "with the right person, sure"
Then, she told me that she wanted to have x amount of children and she wanted a boy and a girl, I did not say anything, but I was thinking, I don't know about that.
The main reason why I am getting sick of this is because, this is the only woman I have dated so far where everything has to be on her terms, I am always the one calling, texting and initiating everything. She told me she is "old fashioned" but I think it is more like someone who expects people to always cater to her.
Also, since the very beginning, I felt like I was "chasing" some high school girl, usually when I meet a girl my age, it is a lot easier, with this woman, I feel like I am constantly jumping through hoops, even to get a next date and I am getting tired of this type of BS
I remember during one of our first conversations, she mentioned the word "high maintenance" and I laughed and did not think much of it, but now I think I am starting to realize what type of person she is and I don't like it
She is also an only child and I have never dated someone who was an only child. I am afraid that a person like this would be someone who would always expect something from you but would never give back.
It is a bit too soon to profile her, but I am starting to see certain personality traits that I don't like.
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