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Ok what am i doing wrong, 2 relationships! 2 strikes hmmm not sure where i'm going wrong regarding relationships so perhaps you guys can put me right, relationship number 1, I meet a really nice women so we decide to settle down together, 4 years into the marriage she cheats on me!! so once the trust has gone you can't get it back so we divorce,
Relationship number 2, I meet another lady some two years later, everything goes well for another two years then bang it happens again hmmm
Ok i'm no tom cruise but hell i work hard earn a good salary and think i deserve better, i have always respected what my father told me when i was growing up, always protect a lady and never harm them, and thats what i have always done,
So i am relocating to maryland from the uk with a new job, think i will call it a day regarding relationships and take up fishing instead
What irks the crap out of me is when a man thinks he has to "protect" his little lady. No thanks. Does he feel that he has to "protect" his working buddies? Of course not. He treats them as equals. If he has a female supervisor, does he feel he has to "protect" her as the weaker being? If he does, he had better not show it.
Any man that feels that somehow he is the Big Strong Protector and she is the Weak, Helpless Lady, is just asking for trouble. She's going to find someone that treats her as if she had good sense.
Treat everyone, male or female, with respect. Assume everyone, male or female, has a certain amount of dignity and can manage to live without your "protection," whatever that is.
I don't think the OP meant any disrespect to women in saying that he believes in protecting his wife. He's not married to his coworkers, or his supervisor. I love my wife, and would protect her from harm if need be, what's wrong with that?
Nothing is wrong with that. Nothing at all. And most women would do the same for their husbands. Protect them from harm, not life or the day to day world.
However, some men manage to project this attitude that the woman is the weaker one that NEEDS a man's protecting arm in every way. That is where the problem is. Would you like it if your wife went around with the attitude that her husband would be incapable of functioning if it weren't for her? Unfortunately, many men act exactly that way towards their women.
Hey jeddie, I'm also a "two-striker", welcome to the club!! One brief marriage (don't think she cheated, but PLENTY of other reasons it wouldn't work) and a 2 1/2 year relationship where she ended up screwing around with some jerk from her distant past while keeping me in limbo (uhh DERRR!).
Thomas Edison said that he had the same reaction to mathematics and women-he could not understand either! What a cool dude!! Believe he mostly slept alone in his laboratory.
Nothing is wrong with that. Nothing at all. And most women would do the same for their husbands. Protect them from harm, not life or the day to day world.
However, some men manage to project this attitude that the woman is the weaker one that NEEDS a man's protecting arm in every way. That is where the problem is. Would you like it if your wife went around with the attitude that her husband would be incapable of functioning if it weren't for her? Unfortunately, many men act exactly that way towards their women.
Well, I don't think the OP meant from life or from the day-to-day world. My wife is perfectly capable of functioning in every aspect of day-to-day life as well or better than any man. I think that the OP meant what he said in exactly the manner that you described; protect her from harm. There are plenty of men that have the cheauvanistic attitude of which you speak, but I think the OP was just trying to say that he respects women, and treats them accordingly.
maybe u are being drawn to the same type of woman..go out of your realm and see what happens..........i always say it hits ya when ya least expect it..Don't give up yet..U sound like a very caring person who has alot to give someone..and a friend first can be a wonderful relationship..and ya fish too..wow.......hey do ya hunt.....we got some great single women up in WV who are looking for a strong caring working man.............
jeddie
it would be interesting to see how much in common your 2 exes had.
It's called the "cookie cutter" syndrome.
If your tend to date the same type of woman it maybe time to "step out of the box"
Believe me there are tons of women who would appreciate a really nice guy.
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