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Old 12-06-2007, 11:38 PM
 
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Say you have an amazing date with someone who you met online from out of town. The date was passionate - there was kissing, mutual affection, and an amazing connection. Then, the person went back to their respective location.

They said they'd visit, and it was obvious that there was still mutual interest in regards to the prospect of a relationship. How long would you wait after the first encounter to call/text (or otherwise contact) this individual?

I'm in this predicament at the moment and the thing of it is this - I don't want to just play into this guy, but at the same time, given the distance want to let him know I'm still interested.

What should I do?
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Old 12-06-2007, 11:59 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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How long have you two been incommunicado? How far away does he live? Would one of you one day be willing to move to be with the other one? How practical is this arrangement? How cute is he?
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Old 12-07-2007, 12:25 AM
 
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We just met last Thursday online. He lives about 600 miles away from me when I'm at school, but a bit more than 400 miles away when I'm at home. He's probably moving to LA in June and expressed interest in me moving with me. And he's amazingly handsome.

So anyway, how does one play it cool in this situation while still showing interest?
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Old 12-07-2007, 12:36 AM
 
Location: southern california
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people lie. long distance and internet make it really easy.
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Old 12-07-2007, 05:46 AM
 
Location: Life here is not an Apollo Mission. Everyone calm down.
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We just met last Thursday online. He lives about 600 miles away from me when I'm at school, but a bit more than 400 miles away when I'm at home. He's probably moving to LA in June and expressed interest in me moving with me. And he's amazingly handsome.

So anyway, how does one play it cool in this situation while still showing interest?
Let me get this right, because I don't think I understand....you met him on line a week ago, or you had your date a week ago?
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Old 12-07-2007, 06:26 AM
 
Location: In the sunshine on a ship with a plank
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Do not sacrifice your education for a guy. If he's really the right one for you he'll still be around when you're done.

And I agree- proceed with caution. Internet relationships are notoriously risky-
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Old 12-07-2007, 08:03 AM
 
Location: Jonquil City (aka Smyrna) Georgia- by Atlanta
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You should call him as soon as he gets home and just say something like "just want to see if you made is back OK" and then let him take the conversation where he wants it to go. As a guy, he will. We all do.
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Old 12-07-2007, 08:15 AM
 
Location: NE Florida
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We just met last Thursday online. He lives about 600 miles away from me when I'm at school, but a bit more than 400 miles away when I'm at home. He's probably moving to LA in June and expressed interest in me moving with me. And he's amazingly handsome.
Does the fact that he "expressed an interest " to move in with someone he has met once raise any red flags for anyone other than me.

Unless he expressed the interest before meeting which would raise those flags even faster.

That would worry me more than the "how does one play it cool"
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Old 12-07-2007, 08:54 AM
 
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We just met last Thursday online. He lives about 600 miles away from me when I'm at school, but a bit more than 400 miles away when I'm at home. He's probably moving to LA in June and expressed interest in me moving with me. And he's amazingly handsome.

So anyway, how does one play it cool in this situation while still showing interest?
You met him last week and he wants to move in with you? Your question should not be "how soon should I contact him?" but "how fast can I run from him?"

Good heavens.
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Old 12-07-2007, 09:27 AM
 
Location: Life here is not an Apollo Mission. Everyone calm down.
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You met him last week and he wants to move in with you? Your question should not be "how soon should I contact him?" but "how fast can I run from him?"

Good heavens.
That is what I was thinking....I'm waiting for her to respond to my question and clarify a timeline. I see more problems with kissing someone you met on line a week ago, than the fact that he hasn't contacted her.
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