How come parties usually don't have more slow dances / slow jams? (clubs, never)

[Sydney123]

Learn to dance OP! You won't look any dorkier than the rest of us out on the floor shaking our money makers.

[CosmoStars]

Originally Posted by LuckyGem

Blame the DJ.

GO DJ that's my DJ

[amil23]

You mean like the old days when a young man could dance with a girl and actually hold her hand and place his other hand on the small of her back? OMG, the rush!

Like a glorious sunrise, a double rainbow, the resonance of a perfect engine at a tractor pull, or geese migrating south on the Rocky Mountain Flyway...................... A memory that will never grow dim.

[goodheathen]

1) Most younger men these days probably don't know how to slow dance.
2) Soft AC is intimate and often about existing committed relationships, which would be weird in an atmosphere where many people aren't looking to settle down and start families. (In other words, blame changing social mores.)

[SeaOfGrass]

Originally Posted by Visvaldis

Ah yes, I miss the opportunity to grope, fondle, and pet my dancing partner.

Originally Posted by SwedishViking

Man I haven't been slow-dancing since I was eleven and asked the cutest blonde in school to dance with me, she did 6 times and my mind was afloat for like 3 weeks lol.

Originally Posted by amil23

You mean like the old days when a young man could dance with a girl and actually hold her hand and place his other hand on the small of her back? OMG, the rush!

I've always thought it was kind of fascinating, how slow dancing is acceptable with a perfect stranger. I mean, if you didn't know the person, it would, in most (many?) people's minds, be completely unacceptable to embrace them, lean in close, and sway together. It's basically a G-rated version of sex. It's so intimate, I just think it's funny how it's a common form of fraternizing with someone, even if you've only just met.

You're gonna tell me this is just about dancing?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CbuYrnzTLrw

[SD4020]

Dancing is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire.

[Phoenix2017]

Originally Posted by SeaOfGrass

I've always thought it was kind of fascinating, how slow dancing is acceptable with a perfect stranger. I mean, if you didn't know the person, it would, in most (many?) people's minds, be completely unacceptable to embrace them, lean in close, and sway together. It's basically a G-rated version of sex. It's so intimate, I just think it's funny how it's a common form of fraternizing with someone, even if you've only just met.

You're gonna tell me this is just about dancing?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CbuYrnzTLrw

Thanks for the helpful link

Tbh, I guess sometimes I just kinda wish that instead of just Hard AC, Rap, Journey, etc. a DJ might throw in songs like these, for a slow dance:

(A popular Soft AC hit, from about 2001 or thereabouts)


(Another popular late-90's - early 00's Soft AC hit)




Or, if the above are "too soft", and it needs to be something a bit more danceable, even something like this:

[Phoenix2017]

Also, a few more examples (the lyrics are admittedly not 100% perfect, but the sound / musical style is intended as the focus):

[Phoenix2017]

Admittedly, these may be "too soft" or the lyrics too verbally-intimate to be considered appropriate for a public dance event, but these are more examples of what I personally consider to be truer to genuine Soft AC than say for example the softer-themed songs of Journey or Billy Joel:

[RedWings18]

Originally Posted by StarPaladin

Not weddings -- I haven't been to any wedding receptions in quite a few years, lol

I guess what I'm talking about is the kind of music they play when you go to things like New Year's parties, and clubs / pubs / etc. Even when they actually play "slow(er)" songs, they tend to be toned-down rock/pop songs from artists like Journey, Billy Joel, etc., at least in my exp. thus far. But not true Soft AC (as in, real love songs or love ballads, from artists like say Jim Brickman)

I DJ regularly at a very popular club in my city. I'd be laughed off the decks and never called back if I dropped a love ballad or even some true R&B.

The goal of the night, especially at a club / bar that is heavily geared toward dancing, is energy. You build energy to a crescendo a few times a night but even in the lower energy spots, it's still quite upbeat. True slow jams have no place in modern dance clubs today.