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Old 11-16-2011, 06:39 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Hello fellow CD friends,

Weird drama again with my family out West. Sent an e-mail saying hello on Sunday after a long workday. Usual normal banter, But I went to ask about my 2 adult cousins (41 and 43 years old, respectively.) I simply asked "How are the kids?" Now she's mad at me, saying I crossed the line and was inappropriate.

A parent's "kids" or "children" are always just that to them, I think. I know they are much older people but Im walking on eggshells worrying about saying the wrong thing.

I don't have children, So maybe I was out of line..Was I? Love to hear your views.
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Old 11-16-2011, 06:46 AM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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No. You weren't out of line. Why do people let things like this bother them? I don't get it. Blow it off.
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Old 11-16-2011, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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Someone got mad cause you over that? What a waste of anger. My husband and I are nearing 34 and his parents call us "the kids". I actually think its sweet as it makes me feel still parented (my own mother is very uninvolved).

I think that's stupid. They should be happy someone asked about them and their family. Some people!
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Old 11-16-2011, 06:55 AM
 
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I wouldnt last a day in your family. Ive called my nephews, grandkids and my own kids lots of names, in jest of course. "Kids" would be a compliment.
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Old 11-16-2011, 07:09 AM
 
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Sounds like half a story to me.
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Old 11-16-2011, 07:18 AM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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I call adults "kids" all the time. Even very old people, and they love it!

There is nothing inappropriate about your asking how your relative's kids are doing, regardless of their ages.
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Old 11-16-2011, 07:46 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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No. You weren't out of line. Why do people let things like this bother them? I don't get it. Blow it off.
I pretty much did blow it off, Not taking it personally. But it seems she gets mad over anything lately. She's a great woman and i love her regardless. She had a minor heart ailment, And for a while I knew she was having a health problem but she would not tell me despite it being minor. I told her if she needed a kidney, I would be on the next plane. I still feel this way, But it's tough when a person is so sensitive. Though I have never encountered anything like this. I was truly surprised.
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Old 11-16-2011, 08:26 AM
 
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Hello fellow CD friends,

Weird drama again with my family out West. Sent an e-mail saying hello on Sunday after a long workday. Usual normal banter, But I went to ask about my 2 adult cousins (41 and 43 years old, respectively.) I simply asked "How are the kids?" Now she's mad at me, saying I crossed the line and was inappropriate.

A parent's "kids" or "children" are always just that to them, I think. I know they are much older people but Im walking on eggshells worrying about saying the wrong thing.

I don't have children, So maybe I was out of line..Was I? Love to hear your views.
There are people who are permanently affronted about anything and everything.
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Old 11-16-2011, 08:31 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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What kind of stuff is going with her kids? Are they having legal issues, health problems, maybe a falling out with the mother? She's obviously stressed and hyper-sensitive about something to do with them. Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.

Give her some time and see if she comes around. No need to defend yourself.
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Old 11-16-2011, 08:34 AM
 
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That's pretty bizarre. A lot of people call their offspring "kids" regardless of their age. And certainly my siblings and I are still called "the kids" by my parents as well. Maybe something else is bothering her.
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