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I say...don't get any deeper...
I probably would bring up a discussion about moving too fast and possible residual past feelings for exs.
Then make the next decision...whatever that is.
He may of just been locked on her because he didn't know there were other great people out there.
I think his comment to her shows he doesn't have feelings the same way and had values that were violated. And his comments to you were not socially appropriate but an out loud comparison to the past he is now seeing as a bad thing compared to what you guys have.
This is an easy one. He's over he ex. What one of the problems for him was the ex's antisocial behavior toward his family. His family is important to him, and he'd like a future wife? to fit and an be able to at least socialize with his family. If you like this guy, it would be a good idea to take the first invite to meet his family, and have a good time.
You guys have no idea how much I want to simply say to him that I can't do this anymore and that he should focus on his ex. He calls, texts ....hold my hands whenever we go out. I'm a weak girl, if a guy can do all that to me...yet still hung up on his ex. It's no go for me. I know that he has it better with me...but when you compare everything together. She still beats me beat by 3 years...I'm so lost.
The only thing that's holds me back from giving up is the feeling that he gives me...
Last edited by milliongirl417; 11-21-2011 at 06:46 PM..
You guys have no idea how much I want to simply say to him that I can't do this anymore and that he should focus on his ex. He calls, texts ....hold my hands whenever we go out. I'm a weak girl, if a guy can do all that to me...yet still hung up on his ex. It's no go for me. I know that he has it better with me...but when you compare everything together. She still beats me beat by 3 years...I'm so lost.
The only thing that's holds me back from giving up is the feeling that he gives me...
If you can overlook these two are in "negotiations" stages and continue to listen to his backhanded compliments comparing you and the ex and willing to risk being deeply hurt, well then, hang in there.
You guys have no idea how much I want to simply say to him that I can't do this anymore and that he should focus on his ex. He calls, texts ....hold my hands whenever we go out. I'm a weak girl, if a guy can do all that to me...yet still hung up on his ex. It's no go for me. I know that he has it better with me...but when you compare everything together. She still beats me beat by 3 years...I'm so lost.
The only thing that's holds me back from giving up is the feeling that he gives me...
Looks like your heart is making all your decisions and logic has left the room. Good luck.
You guys have no idea how much I want to simply say to him that I can't do this anymore and that he should focus on his ex. He calls, texts ....hold my hands whenever we go out. I'm a weak girl, if a guy can do all that to me...yet still hung up on his ex. It's no go for me. I know that he has it better with me...but when you compare everything together. She still beats me beat by 3 years...I'm so lost.
The only thing that's holds me back from giving up is the feeling that he gives me...
I'm sorry to say this but, I think you're in denial milliongirl417 rather than being lost. If what he's shown you so far gives you (I assume) a good feeling, then you should just keep on being with him and adapt the "come what may" attitude. You will find out soon enough whether or not you've made the right decision.
No amount of advice...especially from strangers, can change a lovesick heart. We've all come across this feeling at one time or another.
I'm sorry to say this but, I think you're in denial milliongirl417 rather than being lost. If what he's shown you so far gives you (I assume) a good feeling, then you should just keep on being with him and adapt the "come what may" attitude. You will find out soon enough whether or not you've made the right decision.
No amount of advice...especially from strangers, can change a lovesick heart. We've all come across this feeling at one time or another.
Yes, if I didn't know about his history with his ex, then I could definitely say he's doing a very good job at the 'TALKING STAGE'. DEFINITELY successful in making a girl feels special. When I come to this forum, I'm not looking for a direction to follow...but rather I want different opinions on what SHOULD/COULD be. It helps me sort out how I feel about it. I'm glad you guys are able to help.
My heart has definitely taken over ....which makes me super scared.
Yes, if I didn't know about his history with his ex, then I could definitely say he's doing a very good job at the 'TALKING STAGE'. DEFINITELY successful in making a girl feels special. When I come to this forum, I'm not looking for a direction to follow...but rather I want different opinions on what SHOULD/COULD be. It helps me sort out how I feel about it. I'm glad you guys are able to help.
My heart has definitely taken over ....which makes me super scared.
The negatives have been pointed out...May I ask what he says that makes you feel special?
Realistically look at whats happening with your head and not your heart.
He apparently has the capacity to make more than one women feel special at the same time. That, should scare you. When what someone says and does don't match up, it indicates they can't be trusted.
The negatives have been pointed out...May I ask what he says that makes you feel special?
Realistically look at whats happening with your head and not your heart.
He apparently has the capacity to make more than one women feel special at the same time. That, should scare you. When what someone says and does don't match up, it indicates they can't be trusted.
Hmm, in answering your question. Whenever he does one of these, I feel happy? it's not much....but it's a signs he likes me. yes?
-his morning texts
-his calls before or after certain activities
-or talk to me whenever i drive home alone
-when he holds my hand in front of his close friends
-or when he fight to pay for the bill
-when he tells me he misses me
-open iphotobooth to take webcam pics with me
-put a caller id for me. (i know its nothing, but he doesn't have it for anyone. until i briefly said i had one for him. so he should have one for me. 2 weeks later i noticed i had one)
-invites me to lunch
Hmm, in answering your question. Whenever he does one of these, I feel happy? it's not much....but it's a signs he likes me. yes?
-his morning texts
-his calls before or after certain activities
-or talk to me whenever i drive home alone
-when he holds my hand in front of his close friends
-or when he fight to pay for the bill
-when he tells me he misses me
-open iphotobooth to take webcam pics with me
-put a caller id for me. (i know its nothing, but he doesn't have it for anyone. until i briefly said i had one for him. so he should have one for me. 2 weeks later i noticed i had one)
-invites me to lunch
...i don't know?
It sounds like hes a good friend, at the same time he looking out for his own interest by playing two women.
Hes not going to let you go until he has a firm commitment from his ex to make sure he won't be alone, but he doesn't care where that leaves you.
You are the only person who can look out for your interests, I don't see you taking that as serious as you should.
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We've all come across this feeling at one time or another.
