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It is none of my business.....the situation was thrown at me.....Im not gonna say what I feel because it would hurt feelings and as a previous poster stated....its not about me it's about you.....However, personally I think she is 'playing herself.....why cater to a man because u r lonely and like having some testosterone around the house.......... Have a little more self respect.....cmon now.
Good luck finding your rich dumb poor sucker. Again working in a respectable profession 3-4 days a week as work permits and contributing around the house are not negatives....
While you ladies expect men to provide for you with showers of monetary gifts, complete emotional understanding, utter pampering, and whatever other BS expectations you can throw in there.
Ya know what? The OP sounds like she just may jealous of this guy. She seems to be particularly envious that the BF may be paying rent in "services rendered." What else could explain this bizarre post?
Do you think there is anything wrong with a relationship that involves a guy, who is not the money maker in the relationship. The sole breadwinner is the girlfriend. Boyfriend only works part-time. They stay together in her house(not his). This situation has been going on about 2 years. I means it's obvious who's footing the biil for bills.....Guy pays no rent(he may contribute to one bill and thats it....) He's probably contributing in other ways.....(if you get my drift)...I mean I know if you love each other you'll overlook a few things here and there...but cmon on this is ridiculous.....
Do you think there is anything wrong with a relationship that involves a guy, who is not the money maker in the relationship. The sole breadwinner is the girlfriend. Boyfriend only works part-time. They stay together in her house(not his). This situation has been going on about 2 years. I means it's obvious who's footing the biil for bills.....Guy pays no rent(he may contribute to one bill and thats it....) He's probably contributing in other ways.....(if you get my drift)...I mean I know if you love each other you'll overlook a few things here and there...but cmon on this is ridiculous.....
Is he cheating on her? Using her money to buy drugs? Just trying for a green card? If not - I don't really see how she is being used. Why is it ridiculous? I don't see what things she is overlooking? Are they happy? Does this work for them? What else matters?
Look people..not trying to be a downer on her relationship.....Yes..I am single..but not one of those people who thinks everyone thats in a relationship should be single like me....Have nothing but the best intentions for them.....Its just sometime I wonder.
It is none of my business.....the situation was thrown at me.....Im not gonna say what I feel because it would hurt feelings and as a previous poster stated....its not about me it's about you.....However, personally I think she is 'playing herself.....why cater to a man because u r lonely and like having some testosterone around the house.......... Have a little more self respect.....cmon now.
Really.
And all this time I was thinking it was your situation you were asking us about, not a friend who "threw it at you."
Look people..not trying to be a downer on her relationship.....Yes..I am single..but not one of those people who thinks everyone thats in a relationship should be single like me....Have nothing but the best intentions for them.....Its just sometime I wonder.
I get where you are coming from and believe you are well intentioned
I too would worry about a friend, male or female, who appeared to be so afraid to be alone that they volunteered to be financially used. And it does appear that might be what is happening here.
Since your friend has outright asked for your opinion that means to me she is having her own doubts about the relationship. I'd recommend being honest about what you see but careful not to tell her what to do about it (doing so could very well backfire on you).
your a typical caddy woman, you really need to mind your own business. If she was really your friend you wouldn't come on a message board trying to justify c blocking her situation.
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I used to care about stuff like this with people in my life but I've learned the hard way to choose my stresses more wisely. I'm sleeping so much better now.
Only works 3-4 days a week in his respectable field...because he cant find anything else.
In a robust economy, I'd say it's their business and their choice. I certainly couldn't do it when I was married while he futzed around deciding what he wanted to be when he grew up and taking part-time jobs so he could take elective after elective without ever actually finishing his undergrad.
But now? It's still their business, and it might still be their choice. But it might not be a choice, either, as a lot of people can't find work in their fields these days.
Either way, it's not for anyone else to judge but them.
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your a typical caddy woman, you really need to mind your own business. If she was really your friend you wouldn't come on a message board trying to justify c blocking her situation.
Caddy woman? OP, you into golf?
Oh, Word must mean "[URL="http://www.thefreedictionary.com/catty"]catty[/URL]."
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)...I mean I know if you love each other you'll overlook a few things here and there...but cmon on this is ridiculous.....
