35, still a virgin and don't worry about it...?

[Calvert Hall '62]

Originally Posted by MrRational

It is "encouraged" by the owners of the forum who benefit financially by click bait...
Are you one of the owners?

It is NOT encouraged by the users.
Actual users with rather few exceptions see it as annoying and distracting.

Serious question: I'm not in favor of reopening old threads but how does reopening old threads convey financial benefits?

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by Archer705

35 years old and you never kissed anyone? You've never had a girlfriend? You're a virgin! Holy crap how does that work out for you? The virgin Part, I can see. Though you never kissed or had a girlfriend??? That must be some sort of world record! I see you are having troubles on how to start conversations with women. I don't know if they are similar, but here is the main focus when I start a chat with a 20-25 year old.

When you are starting a conversation, your main goal is to make the opposing sex want to talk to you more. Whenever she smiles by something you say, its a sign you have something in common. That's about it really. Women really enjoy my passion, yet my dic*ness. Really, my personality. I can am described as fun to be around and having no humility, yet full of care for others around me.


Don't worry about sounding boring dude. You better go really deep and give it your all, only thing you got to lose is one of the highlights of your life

It's been almost seven years, it is more like he is 42 or so...and never kissed anyone (a lot could've changed).

I'm still waiting for someone to bump an old thread of mine. I will school him and let him know how much has changed since I posted that thread. LOL!!!

[Runninglikethieves]

Originally Posted by MNTroy

No. It does not.

It is actively encouraged by city data as stated below

Okay

This is my personal interpretation on that, which I've explained before.

I really think these are more intended for the purpose of bumping threads in the regional forums with new information. Like for instance "Affordable apartment in Los Angeles area" or something along those lines. I don't even get bothered by old threads being bumped on this forum when they have a bit more of purpose. We already have a "I'm 22 and virgin" and a "I'm 35 and a virgin" threads on the first page of this forum as it is. Or at least we did as of the other day.

And when these threads are bumped, it's usually by someone replying to a post that's multiple years old and to posters who have been retired from this forum or MIA for multiple years.

[sholomar]

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

I used to think that a "40 year old virgin" was just a movie or fiction, but I have been seeing a lot of people here at CD who are in their 30's and never had sex or have been with a woman.

I find this so bizarre because there are so many women out there who may not be all that attractive but are totally open to having a one night stand or even a fling.

I don't understand how anyone could go that long without EVER getting lucky, I think therapy is probably the best thing for you, hate to say this but something just ain't right!

men like this don't want do date easy women who've been with dozens of men.. we really want a quality woman but it seems like this day in age the nice, quiet ones get taken very early on and what you're left with around the age of 30 are women who partied their 20's away and still want to keep on partying.. the quiet introvert type men go a long time without lovin because women are simply not attracted to these type of men generally speaking. I'm not saying the loud, aggressive, outgoing party animals are bad people, they're just not our type. To each their own. In any case, life is not fair and there's no law that says a man must have a woman.. women can just walk around in a supermarket and get any guy they want.. whether he ends up being a stalker/control freak, gambling addict, or they strike out and find a good one.. they'll still get men.. men have to work at it.. if they don't work at it, they will remain alone... having a woman approach them and "save" their lonely life is a romantic notion but it's very rare. You have to have some trait that turns them on whether it's looks, confidence, or sense of humor. I'd rank money or provider status pretty low in the grand scheme of things, at least when it comes to what they look for initially in their search for "chemistry"

[49ersfan27]

Originally Posted by Repubocrat

I used to think that a "40 year old virgin" was just a movie or fiction, but I have been seeing a lot of people here at CD who are in their 30's and never had sex or have been with a woman.

I find this so bizarre because there are so many women out there who may not be all that attractive but are totally open to having a one night stand or even a fling.

I don't understand how anyone could go that long without EVER getting lucky, I think therapy is probably the best thing for you, hate to say this but something just ain't right!

Well if they aren't attracted to them we can't get on their case about it. Nobody wants to be with someone who will make their skin crawl.

[GolfingCat]

Don't worry about it, you're doing good. Women will bleed your wallet!

[Cyber Surfer]

Sometimes, you just gotta get out of that comfort zone. As a fellow introvert it's a very tough egg to crack, but eventually you're going to crave something new and that's when you need to just get up and do it.

Dating for me has been VERY rough and it put me in a very dark place for a while (just take a gander at my post history if you don't believe me), that feeling of never measuring up to so many lofty standards, and mentally disturbing people who can make you feel miserable but sometimes we're just unlucky and have to work much harder to find someone that just accepts you for you and not what you can do for them.

[filmsniffer]

I really love reading this kind of thread on CD. There are always some sure-fire replies that I can't get enough of.

[haroldjackson]

Originally Posted by Runninglikethieves
The annoying thing about the bumping of old threads is when someone replies to them and responds to posts that are years old, which are more often than not, by posters who haven't even been on in years themselves. And many times, the person bumping the thread is replying as if they aren't even aware that the thread is years old and the people they're replying to haven't even logged on in 3 or 8 years or whatever.

they are responding to the thought,the talking point. Forums are as much a book to research and exchange thought as it is/might be an actual conversation.