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Old 11-25-2011, 07:38 PM
 
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1st meeting - He chats me up at the bar, buys me and my friend drinks, he is all posted up on my chair, and asks for my number. Texts me a few days later, asks me to come out, I play busy, we decide to hang out that weekend, at the same bar we met.


2nd - We meet up, it's all good, he introduces me to his friends, pays for all my drinks, and is all over me. I leave the bar, he texts me asking me to come back and hang out, I text we should hang out that week, he says later in the week.


3rd - I don't hear from him, I text him on Sunday asking him to hang out the following Thurs, he says maybe, I ask how to make it a yes, he says come down to the bar. We meet up, introduces me to more friends. When he leaves to go to the bathroom, he instructs one of his friends to sit with me while he is gone. He's all over me, hand on my back, my chair, my butt. I call him out on not calling me to hang out, he says he was busy; this was the first day he was free. I ask him how many girls he's seeing he says two, I ask him where this is going, he says dating, that he wouldn't be introducing me to all his friends, if he didn't want them asking about me . He kisses me, it's fabulous. I inform him I'm not into casual sex, I like dirty things like monogamy and commitment. He's cool with that. We make plans to go out the following Thurs. He calls me on Monday and we chit chat for an hour.


4th - Thurs he hits me up, we meet at the bar. We hang out with his friends, he's all over me. He tells me he's going home for Thanksgiving, but he wants to see me Sunday before he goes home, at the bar. Duh!


5th - I stop by the bar with a friend, he is there, with all his friends. We order drinks. He's talking to his friends, I'm talking with mine. Well one of my friends feels he is ignoring me, and she proceeds to call him out on it, and it escalates. He handles it well, and retreats to another part of said bar. I walk over and apologize, he says it's cool, we chit chat, and he introduces me to more of his people. He says he will come back over, and apologize to my friend, even though he did nothing wrong, just go get it over with. I go back to my friends, and hear his friend telling my friend that this guy just wants to F me. I am like Wha? and he says turn around, he's talking to another chick. Which he was, but it didn't look like anything. And his friend is all "I'm just looking out for you". Well then my friend gets all pissed off and leaves when my guy walks back up. So I tell him I have to go, and he says he'll call me this week when he's back home. Afterward I text him I sent my friend home and he texts "Sorry about how tonight ended, I will see you when I get back". I text "Have a safe trip" he texts "Thanks baby".



What is going on? Anytime I've given a guy my number he proceeds to blow up my phone, call me, text me, take up all my time, and try to be my boyfriend. Not this guy, he texts me once during the week to set up seeing me that weekend, at his bar. What is this? Is this how some people date? I read a bunch of mens website and apparently this is how they advise them to pick up women. I feel like he's not that interested in me, because he isn't trying to take up more of my time. And the only place we go is his bar.
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Old 11-25-2011, 07:48 PM
 
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1st-how long have you known him? and if you're not exclusive, he's allowed to see other people

2nd-why is he so dang obsessed with some bar?? that would annoy the eff out of me.
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Old 11-25-2011, 07:55 PM
 
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I met him the end of Oct, we have hung out every weekend since.

Because that's their bar. They are there every Sunday for footbal.

I know we aren't exclusive, but I would like to see him more than once a week, and outside of the bar!
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Old 11-25-2011, 07:59 PM
 
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I know its not easy and much easier said than done. but if a man wants you, he will want to see you any way he can and he isn't doing that. I wouldn't waste anymore time on him. Has he even picked you up and taken you out on an actual date yet?
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:00 PM
 
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he has a ton of friends at that bar, that's for sure.
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:02 PM
 
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I know its not easy and much easier said than done. but if a man wants you, he will want to see you any way he can and he isn't doing that.
Exactly.

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I wouldn't waste anymore time on him. Has he even picked you up and taken you out on an actual date yet?
I agree. NEXT.
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:03 PM
 
Location: New Hampshire
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Don't waste yer time.
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:03 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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What is going on?
The way I see it, nothing at all.
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:05 PM
 
Location: New Hampshire
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If you need to come to a forum and ask a bunch of strangers what they think, it might be because you already know the answer (he is not that into you) but just kind of wanted someone to tell you otherwise...and give you some hope...?
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Old 11-25-2011, 08:06 PM
 
Location: tampa bay
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I say he's got a girlfriend and spent Thanksgiving with her!
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