Friend dose not liked to be touched?? (girlfriend, lesbian, women)

[lordvader44]

I need this boards help in figuring out my freinds problem.I just found out that she is ceilbate because she dose not liked to be touched.She is 21 and has had sex and relationships in the past.But she has told other friends that she has never climaxed with a guy.She is NOT lesbian(very attracted to vin deisel) but wants to get surgery to remove her breasts(causes her back pain) and wants to get a penis.She says its just easier to be a guy.From what I gather none of her past relationships went very well.As far as self image she said she thinks her face is very ugly.Her best friend and roomate is a guy who is gay.They do everything together exept when he go's trolling for guys.I like her and wanted to ask her out in the near future.She is always poking and touching me??I just don't get her.My only two geusses are 1.She is has a bad physical self image(ugly face) and this has been reinforced by bad failed relationships and wants to avoid perceived rejection again.2. She wants her gay best friend and is willing to turn herself into something he is attracted to(wont work because he said her getting a peinis is weird).What to you guys think?

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by lordvader44

I need this boards help in figuring out my freinds problem.I just found out that she is ceilbate because she dose not liked to be touched.She is 21 and has had sex and relationships in the past.But she has told other friends that she has never climaxed with a guy.She is NOT lesbian(very attracted to vin deisel) but wants to get surgery to remove her breasts(causes her back pain) and wants to get a penis.She says its just easier to be a guy.From what I gather none of her past relationships went very well.As far as self image she said she thinks her face is very ugly.Her best friend and roomate is a guy who is gay.They do everything together exept when he go's trolling for guys.I like her and wanted to ask her out in the near future.She is always poking and touching me??I just don't get her.My only two geusses are 1.She is has a bad physical self image(ugly face) and this has been reinforced by bad failed relationships and wants to avoid perceived rejection again.2. She wants her gay best friend and is willing to turn herself into something he is attracted to(wont work because he said her getting a peinis is weird).What to you guys think?

I think she's got issues that go way beyond what anyone can address here, and that it would be foolish to ask her out. Really, deep mental issues there. Stay away.

[southseeker]

She seems to be suffering from gender dysphoria. As someone who suffers it, it sucks ass...

See should see a psychiatrist that specializes in this[ something I've yet to do]

Don't stay away, would be the wrong thing to do. Try to help and listen to her.

[Java378]

Well she can enjoy being alone.

I think I dealt with someone who thought touching was weird. I'm still getting her text messages. I am not accepting any of her offers.

[lordvader44]

You could be right yzette.She had a strict religous upbringing.Before she went to public school she was in a private christan school with hardly any friends.She had alot more friends in public school.Other than her celibate stance and the fact that she is a bit clingy and seems not to be able to be alone, she is a cool person to be around and seems pretty normal in all other areas and we enjoy each others company.

[Java378]

Celibacy does not create a person who does not like to be touched.

[artsyguy]

That's weird. Why can't you see her as a friend and just find another girlfriend to date?

She has too many issues. In fact you could introduce her to a quality GLBT group where she can get supported and mentored.
Do not encourage that she go to a psychiatrist or a psychologist unless she is really depressed or anxious.

[lordvader44]

Southseeker she is very much a woman in all respects, mabey a bit quirky.She admits the surgury is a pipe dream because of the cost and beyond that I think its something she says to shock people with.She just dose not seem too commited to it.And again she is not butch at all.

[artsyguy]

She is messing with you. And doesn't like you. Do you know what a Machiavellian person is? Look it up. They are known for cunning duplicity.

Originally Posted by lordvader44

Southseeker she is very much a woman in all respects, mabey a bit quirky.She admits the surgury is a pipe dream because of the cost and beyond that I think its something she says to shock people with.She just dose not seem too commited to it.And again she is not butch at all.

[lordvader44]

Yes a girlfriend would be nice for me.But I am one of those guys that has a hard time being friends with women I'm attracted to.And its not so much her looks I'm attracted to but that she is very easy going ,no drama queen and dose not have a princess complex and has a nice fuigure.