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No need to be scared, 30 is a number, that's all.
The actual "frontier" in a man or woman's life if 50 : one topples over the category "old"
"middle aged" rather, but it's the first step to old age.
30 was for me the best time of my life, when I had the most success with the opposite sex , after 35 though, it goes downhill fast in that respect.
I didn't even MEET my SO (or any decent guys) until I turned 30. Thus far, 30s have proven to be much more about hitting my stride than the all-over-the-place, volatile twenties were. I wasn't a huge fan of the growing pains that came with my twenties (then or in retrospect), but obviously they were necessary. But the past few years since turning 30 have been so much better, to be honest.
People have to keep having kids, or the human race will die out!
I hate it when people have LOTS of kids. I'm for sure having no more than two.
What would be the problem if the human race died out?
We haven't been good stewards of the planet.
How strange to feel compelled to have kids because of a silly, and clearly unfounded, fear. No need to worry about humans dying out.
Are you sure that there will be jobs and affordable education for your offspring? Are you bringing them into a world with limited resources and potential?
paddock_laker;21884014]People have to keep having kids, or the human race will die out!
I'm assuming this is tongue-in-cheek but I'll comment anyway. Have kids because you WANT to have kids, the human race will not die out anytime soon so no need in worrying about that.
I hate it when people have LOTS of kids. I'm for sure having no more than two.
Oh no problem...those with lots of kids are just making up for those that don't have kids at all. It all evens out in the end.
On a more serious note, you are male so there is no biological clock working against you here. Settle down when you are good and ready, there is no rush to do so before that point in time. 30's is not the end of the road for you. You are still young and have plenty of time to find a partner in life.
Well, reading this made me nervous. I'm turning 19 in six days and want to get married and start a family soon (within in a few years) but what if I'm like the OP and am still unmarried and childless at 30? (no offense to you OP) I have a feeling that things in life are going to start moving fast for me now. Being 18 went by really really fast, seems like it was just yesterday when I turned 18 last year. Before I know it, I'm going to be in my mid 30s...
Honestly, I just want to get married and have children already. If I were already with the right girl, had a decent job, a home, if the cost of living were lower and if I didn't have to go to college, I would have probably gotten married by now.
Well, reading this made me nervous. I'm turning 19 in six days and want to get married and start a family soon (within in a few years) but what if I'm like the OP and am still unmarried and childless at 30? (no offense to you OP) I have a feeling that things in life are going to start moving fast for me now. Being 18 went by really really fast, seems like it was just yesterday when I turned 18 last year. Before I know it, I'm going to be in my mid 30s...
Honestly, I just want to get married and have children already. If I were already with the right girl, had a decent job, a home, if the cost of living were lower and if I didn't have to go to college, I would have probably gotten married by now.
Trust me, the dating scene is ****ing awful and going off of your posts it's not gonna be much better in college (you don't strike me as the multiple one-night-stands kind of guy)... but in the end you'll be better off if you put off marriage till after college. You change way too much in your late teens and early 20s. You can't get a good job unless you go to trade school or college. Go to school, work hard, maybe you'll meet a sweet girl, you can court her and all that, then once you graduate and get a job then you can start thinking about marriage.
I'd love to meet the perfect girl for me right now, but even if I did I wouldn't marry her before graduating and I certainly wouldn't have kids till about age 30.
Your profile says you're a clinical psychologist, I'm curious what advice you'd give to a patient if they came to you with this concern.
You might want to stop putting too much stock into milestone birthdays. Most of us won't set the world on fire by 30, 40, 50 or whatever age you've set for yourself. In fact, I find for myself, it's easier to just "move the goal post" than to beat myself up over the things I did not accomplish by a given age. Focus more on short term goals and fulfillment on a regular basis rather than counting what you don't have by 30 or whatever magical number you've been conditioned to stress over. I'm sure if you made a list of all the things you do have, you'll probably be pretty happy with yourself.
Last edited by Coolhand68; 11-28-2011 at 09:31 AM..
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(no offense to you OP) I have a feeling that things in life are going to start moving fast for me now. Being 18 went by really really fast, seems like it was just yesterday when I turned 18 last year. Before I know it, I'm going to be in my mid 30s...
