marriage problem, need to hear what others think ?

[Kim46741974]

You married at 23 and 25, that's awfully young. Then your different shifts make it difficult to have much of a relationship; she no longer feels a connection to you and this is what she's trying to tell you. Make some real effort to connect with her again and consider trying to find a 1st shift job if at all possible. You told her to go out with her girlfriends and so that's what she's doing; be careful what you wish for. You are on the receiving end of warnings right now but it may not be too late if you guys sit down and try to make some kind of connection again.

[srjth]

Wow. This makes me so so sad.

It's great that you are trying. If she doesn't respond, then she simply takes you for granted.