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Old 12-07-2011, 10:32 PM
 
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Default If things were/are not going well in your life/relationships/etc....

what was the last straw that made you say " I had enough" and decide to do something about it to make things better??? What did you do?
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Old 12-07-2011, 10:47 PM
 
Location: SWUS
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When I started having more ****ty days than happy (or at least, neutral) days.
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Old 12-07-2011, 10:49 PM
 
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Everyone has different breaking points but you know when you are unhappy and that's when you need to start thinking of ways to change your situation. Then proceed to act on the steps it takes to move forward, whether its breaking up, moving, changing jobs, etc. Remember you can only change YOU not someone else.
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Old 12-07-2011, 10:55 PM
 
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Everyone has different breaking points but you know when you are unhappy and that's when you need to start thinking of ways to change your situation. Then proceed to act on the steps it takes to move forward, whether its breaking up, moving, changing jobs, etc. Remember you can only change YOU not someone else.

Well Duh! People handle things differently and thats why I was asking.
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Old 12-07-2011, 11:02 PM
 
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I'm actually at my breaking point right now. I'm calling it a quarter life crisis .

I haven't quite figured out what to do yet. I just need to be selfish right now and make myself happy. I'll figure it out from there.
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Old 12-07-2011, 11:13 PM
 
Location: Louisiana
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As someone who has experienced a life crisis and is still recovering from one, all I can say is, you got to take baby steps to get back to where you were. Take too big of of leap or think irrationally and you are setting yourself up for more failure. I thought I could climb back up the ladder myself w/o much guidance or planning, but I just ended up falling on my ass. Take things slowly and figure out what steps are needed to get you where you want to go and act on them. As far as what that last straw was, I'll keep that private
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Old 12-07-2011, 11:32 PM
 
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Well Duh! People handle things differently and thats why I was asking.
Recognizing what part you played in the down fall is a good start to recovery.

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Old 12-08-2011, 07:07 AM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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what was the last straw that made you say " I had enough" and decide to do something about it to make things better??? What did you do?
When I say that^

What I did was everything I'd have done as a couple, but by myself. Carry on carrying on....
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Old 12-08-2011, 07:36 AM
 
Location: Corydon, IN
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The most profound "had enough" for me was when my ex-wife was going off on me for the umpty-umpth time and rather than stewing and fuming, I was shocked at the utter needlessness of her venom and rage, and thought in a curiously detached-and-clear manner "NO ONE should have to live this way."


At that instant the decision had been made and it was as though a tremendous weight slipped from my shoulders. I KNEW it was merely a matter of time, despite that it took a few more antics from her to make me actually MOVE.


When that final straw that made me MOVE came, I was elsewhere on a camping trip and learned of a key behind-my-back action of hers which told me everything I needed to hear. I drove straight home and when she greeted me at the door, told her "Sit down. We need to talk."

I had a room by that evening, was out of the house in two weeks. Filed for divorce within a month.
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Old 12-08-2011, 07:53 AM
 
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what was the last straw that made you say " I had enough" and decide to do something about it to make things better??? What did you do?
I know this is going to sound like a stupid "I had enough" moment, but for me, it was the moment.

I had been unhappy for a few years. I had been thinking divorce for a few years, but I just honestly didn't want to hurt him or our family or our extended families that much..... I tried talking to him and telling him I was unhappy. He told me that he had more important people in his life and more important problems in his life, and I just needed to get happy.

I got my hair cut. He hates short hair, and I knew this, but I got my hair cut anyway. When I got home, he took one look at me and literally turned his back on me. He didn't speak to me for three days. Finally he spoke to me only to ask if I wanted sex.

I asked for a divorce instead.
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