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Old 05-21-2012, 07:27 AM
Status: "Free spirited libertarian" (set 7 days ago)
 
Location: A great city, by a Great Lake!
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sounds like a dream....

Yep, and I'm living it!
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Old 05-21-2012, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Heck no, makes absouletly NO difference to me whatsoever.


Women, you seriously think that 3 dates as opposed to 1 is going to make you look like you have so much more morals? Don't fool yourselves
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Old 05-21-2012, 01:28 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Here's a novel idea: If some of these people worried about looking respectable enough or taken seriously as LTR potential -- why don't they present themselves as such from the door?.....If you present yourself as a first date, second date, third date lay good luck trying to maintain that "I'm to be respected and taken seriously" vibe.
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Old 05-28-2012, 11:31 PM
 
Location: Central Florida
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Witholding sex is a manipulative game. Playing games is just a sign the relationship wasn't meant to be or somebody is not mature enough.

It's absolutely not true that every Homo sapiens with a penis wants something completely different out of a relationship from a biological woman. With this kind of sexist attitude, somebody is bound to overlook a decent guy out there just because they are jaded.
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Old 05-29-2012, 12:25 AM
 
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it really depends on how important sex is in a relationship to the parties involved. in some cases its no different then seeing if your personality matches
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Old 05-30-2012, 08:58 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Witholding sex is a manipulative game. Playing games is just a sign the relationship wasn't meant to be or somebody is not mature enough.

It's absolutely not true that every Homo sapiens with a penis wants something completely different out of a relationship from a biological woman. With this kind of sexist attitude, somebody is bound to overlook a decent guy out there just because they are jaded.
How is it being manipulating? You don't own another person's body and sex is not owed to you. I think a man/woman should have sex when they feel they are ready, and if its 3 months down the line so be it.

A lot of men are not being truthful when they say that it doesn't matter how soon a woman has sex with them, it won't make them look any better or worse in their eyes. A bunch of bull. The first thing a man thinks when a woman sleeps with them too soon is "how many other guys has she slept with on the first date?" That's what they are really thinking
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Old 05-30-2012, 09:00 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Heck no, makes absouletly NO difference to me whatsoever.


Women, you seriously think that 3 dates as opposed to 1 is going to make you look like you have so much more morals? Don't fool yourselves
How about 10 dates, IF you make it that far. Don't count on it.
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Old 05-30-2012, 09:09 PM
 
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Witholding sex is a manipulative game. Playing games is just a sign the relationship wasn't meant to be or somebody is not mature enough.

It's absolutely not true that every Homo sapiens with a penis wants something completely different out of a relationship from a biological woman. With this kind of sexist attitude, somebody is bound to overlook a decent guy out there just because they are jaded.
Give me a break. Just because you have a penis does not mean you are owed sex from biological females.

Stop using biology as an excuse to be a pig. Why men and women spend so much time assessing what monkeys and lions do and base their behavior on that is beyond me. I aspire to be more than an ape.
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Old 05-30-2012, 11:04 PM
 
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I'm on the other extreme. After almost 8 months, my bf still won't still won't go further than making-out.
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Old 05-31-2012, 07:48 AM
 
Location: NY
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I cannot offer a set timeframe when it is appropriate. I just think the danger of having sex too soon is that it can make the relationship about the pursuit and receipt of physical gratification, instead about getting to know someone deeply and intimately outside of the physical.... and ignoring big issues of incompatability to continue the physical gratification.
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