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one: he/she loves you so much...and he/she cares about you, protects you, cherishs you, and can do everything you want, also he/she is a nice person.
another: the person you love, and he can not give you enough things that you deserve, he also loves you, but not strong, no more than that one loves you...
In other words, choose one of two types (of perhaps many) of relationships where the attraction, devotion, committment, etc. is inequitable.
I would choose the relationship where she loved me more than I loved her. I figure that I could attempt to 'rise' to her level and that the outcome would be dependent on how much effort I put into it. The opposite, I love her more than she loves me, requires action on her part and that can't really be controlled and the outcome is generally independent of my efforts.
My grandmother always told me it's better to marry someone who loves you a little more than you love them. I've never been in a position to have to choose between two people though.
In other words, choose one of two types (of perhaps many) of relationships where the attraction, devotion, committment, etc. is inequitable.
I would choose the relationship where she loved me more than I loved her. I figure that I could attempt to 'rise' to her level and that the outcome would be dependent on how much effort I put into it. The opposite, I love her more than she loves me, requires action on her part and that can't really be controlled and the outcome is generally independent of my efforts.
one: he/she loves you so much...and he/she cares about you, protects you, cherishs you, and can do everything you want, also he/she is a nice person.
another: the person you love, and he can not give you enough things that you deserve, he also loves you, but not strong, no more than that one loves you...
so in this situation, which one you will choose??
I only love the second person?
In that case, even though the relationship would be doomed, obviously I'd go with that one. No pain no gain, etc
It depends on what you want from the relationship. I will assume you want a long term relationship. Frankly, its a crap shoot. The one who "loves you with all their heart" is likely the more emotional person. A more emotional person also tends to be more emotionally unstable, meaning they can go from love to hate very fast and back again and then in another direction. To me, I would always recommend a person who is more stable emotionally, who makes wise decisions, not based largely on passion or lust. Those emotions tend to change over time, sometimes rapidly and for no apparent reason.
EG. I have a friend who is married to one of these emotional types. His wife recently got mad at him and wouldn't speak to him for 5 days. She never told him why, and finally forgave him, but he still has no idea why? The emotional passionate ones may be fun for a while, but I wouldn't want to marry one. Look at it like owning vs. renting a hot sports car. It might be fun to ride and have for a short time, but ownership would likely turn into an expensive headache. I own a Buick.
Oh, Noela... You'll never learn, either, will ya...?!
I know, I know, I've read far too many gothic romances
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