Why do married men still feel the need to drool over other women? (separate, attractive)

[Knight2009]

Originally Posted by HonestOne1

You really know nothing about men do you?

Men crave two things. 1) Variety. 2) Beauty. 3) Variety. In that order.

A few of us men also value stability and permanence as well though, if you take my meaning Kinda sorta conflicts with the "variety" part, above...some of us, really just want "the one", not "the many"

[Opsimathia]

Not all men act like virgins in the presence of an attractive female form. Sorry your husband is carrying on like a primate. I hate that crap and I ditch anyone that acts like that. Its an insult to who you are with and makes you look more like a deprived boy than a man.

[sydney1987]

Originally Posted by Chellemate

really guys this is a question for you...I want to understand the reasoning for this as a female.
I have been married 2 times and still dont understand this need that men have to always be looking at other women. You say you love us and we are beautiful, sexy, blah blah blah. Well how do you think we feel about all that when we catch you eye screwing another lady. I gotta give some of you props though because you have it down to a science or think you do. You chick will be in a store with you and suddenly you see a girl who catches your eye, so you hang back a little pushing the buggy with all her stuff in it. My favorite is the" I have to go the mens room" which just happens to be in the direction she is going. Maybe you will get a chance to check out her rear end. What happened to "baby your so sexy"? Apparently it isnt enough to keep your attention to stay shopping with us instead of chasing her down. I mean even if it is just to drool and you arent the kind of guy that tries to get phone numbers for later, its still wrong. Why are you with the woman your with if you cant keep your eyes on the prize?
My first husband , well I kind of knew what I was getting into when he told me before we were married that he had a fantasy of being with 2 women at a time. I was also younger than I am now and we know how that goes. I would even help his check out women by pointing them out when I saw one attractive, or one with assets I knew he liked. Eventually he ended up trying to cash in on the fantasy with me and thats when our marriage spiraled out of control. Not complaining to much I am now married to my second husband who is a much better man all around.
However he still has the man phobia thing where he has to check out females in my presence. He does it with skill, no tripping over himself or running into poles. He even has made me at fault a few times saying that I want my hair a certain color and he was just looking at her hair picturing it on me....yeah right! My favorite in this case is "how do you know I was looking at her I could have been looking at something that just happened to be in that direction" Of course you were, her rear end.
I am not at all ugly, I get plenty of guys trying to holla if you know what I mean. So I dont understand why my husband who is so inlove with me and tells me I am so hot all the time has this irresistable need to look at other womens assets. Its not a divorce matter because my love runs deeper than that. Im just not buying the "we are wired that way" logic. What are you thinking about when you see these women? More importantly what do you think they think about you when they see you are with someone and eyeballing them? Most women to tell you a secret dont like being stared at like a juicy steak. There is just no class in it. We dont enjoy the stupid comments or lame pick up lines either. They are so played out just so you know. Do you keep her image in your head so the next time you have sex with your beautiful girlfriend you can use it?
Dont even try to say women do it too!!! I am here to tell you there are not enough good looking men that are worthy of that kind of looking. Sorry , just fact. Plus women dedicate to the man they love meaning no straying of any kind including checking out another man. Television men are different guys, we know we will never meet them in person so its all good. Out in public when you do this to your women your making yourself look stupid, and your dissrespecting the female your with. If you have a family with her that is even worse. When you married her you said for better or for worse in sickness and health. Lets say she put on a few pounds having those 2-3 kids of yours. You should be proud that was your doing. Besides your probaly not all that anymore either. You can always get a gym membership and go with her(eyes off the other girls there), help her and yourself. Treat her to a spa, or a new hair style, maybe get her nails done. She may not look exactly ike she did when you married her but one day your not going to be a GQ either dude and if you love her youll respect her feelings all the way.
My husband checks out women when we go to the gym, and ocassionally when we are out in town and I am big enough to tell him I saw what he did and I am not happy. I wont let a man treat me that way. I am worth more than that and your women are too. It still hurts and it has made it where i dont go with him to the gym. I give it to him sometimes it isnt his fault because like a train wreck if a chick is dressed like a tramp everyone even other women are going to look.
However what makes it okay for men to do this?

I would be perfectly comfortable commenting on a pretty girl together with a guy. It's just that women don't like it when they're left out of that sort of thing. Just because a guy thinks another girl is good-looking doesn't mean that you aren't. And men compare far less than women compare themselves to each other.... So really, your whole issue -- It's not a big deal.

Also I don't think it's so bad for a man to fantasize about being together with 2 women. It sounds like any man's dream come true! As long as it's just a fantasy... then that's exactly what it is. Just someone's imagination doing what imaginations do best. You should be thankful that he was willing to share.

[Whyte Byrd]

I don't know the answer to this but I know one thing; it's a quote I like a lot and it says a lot about the man who's woman is jealous, not just the jealous woman.

A boy makes his girl jealous of other women. A gentleman makes other women jealous of his girl

[sydney1987]

Originally Posted by Knight2009

A few of us men also value stability and permanence as well though, if you take my meaning Kinda sorta conflicts with the "variety" part, above...some of us, really just want "the one", not "the many"

alright Romeo.

[Opsimathia]

Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd

I don't know the answer to this but I know one thing; it's a quote I like a lot and it says a lot about the man who's woman is jealous, not just the jealous woman.

That is going in the file for keeps & repeats!


I like it!

[West of Encino]

Because there's no gender segregation and some married people simply have no self-respect or for their spouses. The same also applies to married women.

I guess if we lived in a sex-segregated society, there would be less infidelities and no married people lusting after those who aren't their spouses.

[xiansheng_g]

Originally Posted by Chellemate

...[i]I have been married 2 times and still dont understand this need that men have to always be looking at other women....However what makes it okay for men to do this?

Let's face it; if women today looked liked their neanderthal sisters, not a single man on the planet would give you a second look. However, God/our inherited evolution has made it so that women, thank God, are very attractive and thus, we, men rightly so, "look at other women,"WITH A GREAT DEAL OF PLEASURE!

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by West of Encino

Because there's no gender segregation and some married people simply have no self-respect or for their spouses. The same also applies to married women.

I guess if we lived in a sex-segregated society, there would be less infidelities and no married people lusting after those who aren't their spouses.

Like Saudi Arabia or Afghanistan?

[West of Encino]

Originally Posted by Lucario

Like Saudi Arabia or Afghanistan?

In the USA, specifically.