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Old 12-22-2011, 04:58 AM
 
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I recently got involved with a married man who told me that he was legally divorced, only to find out that he was lying and not even seperated. I contacted his wife to let her know about the emails, phone calls, gifts and nude photos he had been sending me...and I called her with out being hostile and rude. Well turns out that she went to the police with him and she filed a report but he did not. The Police called me telling me ONLY she filed the complaint and he was with her but did not file one against me. ......... All I did was tell her what he was doing. I dont understand this. I left him and cut him off. I was not mean to her and I dont understand why is it that she only filed a compliant an he went with her and did not. I dont understand it and the detective that called me said he was also confused and found it odd that he did not file a complaint....

I am hurt that they would file a complaint and I JUST got over him and then this was like a extra smack in the face.

I am wondering maybe he did not want to file a complaint jointly is because he wants to communicate with me. .

Your feed back is appreciated.
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Old 12-22-2011, 05:14 AM
 
Location: Nebraska
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You are either very young, very immature, or must enjoy the drama; not just being in it but causing it. Why else would you call his wife? The non-dramatic response to a liar and a cheat is to tell him/her to FO and die, and to never ever talk to, write to, or have anything to do with him again. You were played. Sooner or later everyone is. Walk away, suck it up, and get over it. Do not respond to anything from either party - husband or wife - ever again. You made a mistake, compounded it by trying to get revenge, and got schmacked. Don't make it any worse.

If you still really believe that he wants to be with you just because he didn't file the complaint, you have more emotional problems than can be solved in a public forum. If you insist on making a nuisance of yourself, be prepared for the consequences of your actions. Move on - or continue to make a fool of yourself by instigating more drama. Your choice.
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Old 12-22-2011, 05:20 AM
 
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WALK AWAY from this mess. Do not contact him, his wife or anyone who knows them. Stop dating unavailable men and yes, that includes MARRIED men who want to cheat. Geezus.
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Old 12-22-2011, 05:36 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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Your feed back is appreciated.
Get off this dead end road at the next exit and just walk away and forget about it.

[and don't look back]
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Old 12-22-2011, 06:42 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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There was really no point in contacting his wife. She obviously didn't appreciate your honesty.
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Old 12-22-2011, 06:45 AM
 
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You stuck your nose in where it didn't belong. You have no loyalty to his wife. Why would you tell her? I'm sure you thought you'd get back at him, make him hurt because he hurt you, show his wife what a loser he is...whatever your resason, but that backfired didn't it?

All you did was turn her world upside down, and she is supposed to thank you for that????
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Old 12-22-2011, 06:45 AM
 
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Agree with the poster that said you must be very young or very immature. The guy probably told his wife that you were a stalker that he hadn't been able to get rid of. Simple fix - she calls downtown. Done. She's over it, and of course, so is he.
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Old 12-22-2011, 06:49 AM
 
Location: Location: Location
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Well, the advice you just received is the best you'll ever hear. You didn't know he was still married so I can't blame you for dating him, but now that you know, you know what to do.

You shouldn't have called his wife. I'm betting she already knew he was playing around - You're probably not the first.

Can you explain what kind of "complaint" she filed against you? I'm curious.

Oh, and BTW, any guy, married or single, who sends you nude photos of himself? I'd send him on his way. Weird-oh.
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Old 12-22-2011, 06:58 AM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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Just this.
He's probably lied his way out of trouble and said you're just some crazy stalker who's made it all up.

You've learned a harsh lessson, I'm afraid.

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The guy probably told his wife that you were a stalker that he hadn't been able to get rid of.
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Old 12-22-2011, 06:59 AM
 
Location: New York
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Walk away from the situation. You've learned your lesson. Move on. GL.
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