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Being alone just strikes me as dangerous. I don't go to bars or go clubbing because there's a slim to none chance that a guy I would be interested in would frequent either establishment (now if we had pubs..). I guess it's different for guys, but as a female, I'd have to really not value my safety at all to go out alone. Guys need to worry as well- they just don't. :P
However, in concert situations, if a guy approaches me, I'd rather him separate out from his group. Like someone else said, if there's a guy talking to you and all his friends are standing behind him, it's like you're on stage. Guys being alone doesn't worry me unless they give out the "uh oh" vibe.. but that can happen if a guy is there with friends as well!
I go out alone every week, and I've been doing this at the same place for over two years now. Once the guys got the hint that I'm only there to see the band, they left me alone. However, I take steps to protect myself, like leaving immediately when the band is done, and being careful to look for anyone following me as I'm driving home. It may sound paranoid, but it's better to be paranoid and safe, than lackadaisical and dead!
I met a very good friend of mine at this place, and through her I've gotten to know other nice people there. Would I go to a club to meet I'd date seriously? Nope. Not in a million years!
So how many of you out there have gone to the bar/club alone before? Do you go alone on a regular basis? How would you compare your 'success' rate (ie - getting a phone number or bringing someone home) from when you go out alone versus when you go with friends?
The reason I ask is because I've recently started going out alone (friends going out of town occasionally). I'm 23 and male, relatively attractive (rated 8 on HotOrNot ) and typically a bit of a loner anyway.
I've only been out alone 3 times, and every single time I have left with a phone number (and had or currently going on dates with). On the other hand, I've been out many times with friends, but have never gotten a single phone number.
Weird, huh?
I go out alone, on a regular basis to neighborhoods bars. I actually prefer it most times. But, as a female, it can get annoying because you have men coming at you with a bunch of INTERVIEW like questions such as "where your man at", "where your girls at", "you don't have a boyfriend?", "why don't you have a boyfriend", etc..etc.......when I'll I'm tryin' to do is sit , in peace, and have a damn drink and sometimes get lost in my own thoughts. So, at times, there's a negative. On the positive side, a female can usually get men to buy her more drinks, when she's by herself, as opposed to when she's out with her girlfriends.
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However, I take steps to protect myself, like leaving immediately when the band is done, and being careful to look for anyone following me as I'm driving home. It may sound paranoid, but it's better to be paranoid and safe, than lackadaisical and dead!
) and typically a bit of a loner anyway. 
