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I think you need to talk to your wife. If I was your wife, I'd have a conversation with my family about remembering to include you. I know that if the situation were reversed and your wife was left out of gift giving during Christmas spent with your family, that you would say something about it, right?
My in laws are awesome, they spend the exact same amount on me as they do on my wife, her brother, and his wife! We each get the same monetary amount spent on us so there is no fighting.
Most of the fighting would be between my wife and her brother as they are uber jealous of each other lol
Write the members of your wife's family "Thank You" cards; ones that say somehting along the lines of "Thanks for the gifts to me and for making me feel so welcome in your home during the lovely Holiday Season. I really appreciate it..."
Nothing like some sharp sarcasm to convey your feelings to rude people.
Write the members of your wife's family "Thank You" cards; ones that say somehting along the lines of "Thanks for the gifts to me and for making me feel so welcome in your home during the lovely Holiday Season. I really appreciate it..."
Nothing like some sharp sarcasm to convey your feelings to rude people.
I sort of agree with you. However there are some out there that would have it go way over their heads and they'd respond with "we didn't get you anything, why are you thanking us."
Write the members of your wife's family "Thank You" cards; ones that say somehting along the lines of "Thanks for the gifts to me and for making me feel so welcome in your home during the lovely Holiday Season. I really appreciate it..."
Nothing like some sharp sarcasm to convey your feelings to rude people.
Ah yes, the rude counteracting rude gestures method of "How to alienate everyone"
Did the finance get presents of everyone? If so then you have every right to be hurt. It isn't the present but the fact that you were snubbed, plain and simple. If the finance did not get anything except from his SO then I would expect it to be a family tradition.
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Originally Posted by JennaKendall
Like someone else asked, I'm curious if the one sister's fiance received any gifts?? If not, then you know not to take it personally. But if he did, then...something seems off.
Yoo hoo, Mr. Earth! We're waiting for the answer to this question! :::tap tap tap:::
In my husband's family, in order to be economical, we have a rule that we just buy presents for the kids, none for the adults. Yes, every family has their own way of doing Christmas, but for no one to get you a single gift...either they are completely oblivious or else thoughtless.
Like someone else asked, I'm curious if the one sister's fiance received any gifts?? If not, then you know not to take it personally. But if he did, then...something seems off.
I agree it was rude.
I also like the idea of just buying for children. I have a friend who stresses out every year buying for her relatives(including an aunt who needs nothing) and she almost got laid off, I don't get that.
Chrismtas should be about spending time with family and friends.
I'm sure it was awkward for the OP, I would discuss it with your wife.
And if the sister's fiance got a gift just for him then I would wonder what is going on.
Yoo hoo, Mr. Earth! We're waiting for the answer to this question! :::tap tap tap:::
I honestly can't say if he did or didn't. Like I said we arrived late (due to work), and by then everyone had already received their gifts/ate - the fiance and my SIL already had theirs opened and packed in a bag waiting off to the side, ready to go home.
He does have a closer relationship to all of them though, and sees them much more often than I do..on account of him actually being from this state and going to highschool with my wife and one of the sisters. So they all grew up together I suppose, whereas I'm more the guy their sister moved away to be with (in 2006, although we just moved back and bought a house near them).
We've been married for 5 years, and I usually receive something or atleast am included in the cards.
This is a weird topic to discuss, because it seems like I'm complaining about not getting presents, but it's more of another example of vague rudeness on their part that throws me off.
Individually I like them and get along with them, but it's like there's a weird father/daughter dynamic, and when the three sisters + my FIL are together, it's like a pack of wild wolves that believe they're hilarious. But to everyone else, they're rude, loud, and espouse a silly sense of humor that I thought most adults grew out of.
I honestly can't say if he did or didn't. Like I said we arrived late (due to work), and by then everyone had already received their gifts/ate - the fiance and my SIL already had theirs opened and packed in a bag waiting off to the side, ready to go home.
He does have a closer relationship to all of them though, and sees them much more often than I do..on account of him actually being from this state and going to highschool with my wife and one of the sisters. So they all grew up together I suppose, whereas I'm more the guy their sister moved away to be with (in 2006, although we just moved back and bought a house near them).
We've been married for 5 years, and I usually receive something or atleast am included in the cards.
This is a weird topic to discuss, because it seems like I'm complaining about not getting presents, but it's more of another example of vague rudeness on their part that throws me off.
Individually I like them and get along with them, but it's like there's a weird father/daughter dynamic, and when the three sisters + my FIL are together, it's like a pack of wild wolves that believe they're hilarious. But to everyone else, they're rude, loud, and espouse a silly sense of humor that I thought most adults grew out of.
Ahhh, so you "tolerate" them, but think they're rude, loud and have an immature sense of humor. Funny, you know.....how a mate will share things with someone in their family....then they tell someone and they tell someone and so on and so on. It sounds like you could be in a bit of a pickle here (just maybe), where you have to come down so far, in order to tolerate these people, much less share YOUR wife with them, that they're showing you that the feeling is mutual?
They love their wife, she's one of them. Clearly, you are NOT one of them and since you've so blantantly declared as much (cleverly HIDDEN ), they are likely just reciprocating in kind. Might wanna play just a little more like you ARE a part of the family from here on out. It might just make your wife feel a bit less humilated next year, you as well.
Was it rude? Yeah, I'm quite sure they could have concealed their animosity, for the holidays. Public humiliation and snubbing at family gatherings really is pretty petty. However, given the opinion you already had, concerning your inlaws, why would this shock you?
dude- it's been a week since Christmas !! I'm dumbfounded that your WIFE did not address the situation-either with you or her family- WTF?-shame on her - she should have your back and in sticking her head in the sand and ignoring the situation she is condoning their behavior- You do have a point though about it not being about the presents but the lack of consideration shown to you- I'm not a tactful person so I don't have the words to give you so you don't come off as a whiner. Do not let it go- your wife dropped the ball on this- I'm sorry this happened to you. Now If it was your kids that were ignored and slighted mark my words she'd be all up in their stuff.....
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), they are likely just reciprocating in kind. Might wanna play just a little more like you ARE a part of the family from here on out. It might just make your wife feel a bit less humilated next year, you as well. 
