Is This Woman Still Interested or not? (date, single, older)

[wallofsound]

I KNOW this is a LONG message. But I wanted to lay out all the details to get an objective viewpoint from the forum.

I am a single guy, no kids who met a divorced woman with 2 kids. I am older than her by a few years. So age is not an issue.

Here's the outline of how I met this woman:

1. I met this woman about 6 weeks ago. We met the "old fashioned" way, at a bar/club. We danced and talked and seemed to hit it off.

2. We had our first date about a week later. Again, we seemed to enjoy each other's company.

I learned she is divorced with 2 kids and does not go out to bars/clubs very often. That is not a problem for me. I don't want to date a party girl anyway. She also told me she has her kids every other weekend.

3. I followed up a few days later to ask for the 2nd date and she said she could NOT make it because she had to be with her kids that weekend.

4. So I followed up the next week to say hello and try set up a 2nd date. Note: All of our communication has been via text. So I texted her to say hello but before I could even ask for the 2nd date she cut me off by saying she was busy with her kids and she had to run.

I immediately wrote her off at that point. I figured she had lost interest. So although I liked her I figured I best just move on.

5. About 1 or 2 weeks later she texted me out of the blue to say hello and wish me a good holiday season. I responded in kind.

But I also followed up that brief exchange with a text a few days later telling her I'd like to take her out to dinner when she is less busy with the holidays, etc. She did NOT reply to that text. Once again, I figured she was just being nice and saying hello. So I let it go.

6. HOWEVER, this lady texted me AGAIN on Christmas to say hello and wish me Merry Xmas. She made no reference to my proposed dinner one week prior. So I responded in kind with a Merry Xmas but made no effort to ask her out AGAIN.

So that is where I have left it so far. I have a guy friend who told me to give it another try with her since she keeps texting me. At this point, I am NOT sure what she does or does not want.

I would like to hear what others think? If you don't mind, please let me know if you are male or female if you respond. Just want to know where you are coming from.

THANK YOU!

[elnina]

What about a nice phone call?? Maybe with a New Year wishes?? You cannot text her forever. Its for teenagers.
You need to talk, hear her voice, sense her mood, the way how she talks with you ... and you will know.
Txt messages would not give you those answers.

[Redrover]

I think one of two things is going on here. Either the holidays and her need to spend as much time with her kids is keeping her from making any immediate plans or else she may have had some bad experiences in her recent past and she is trying to be very cautious about proceeding with a new relationship with you. If you really like this woman just let her know that you like her, that you would like to see her again but that you will respect her need to proceed cautiously and let her be the one to make the next move.

[Timmyy]

Originally Posted by wallofsound

I KNOW this is a LONG message. But I wanted to lay out all the details to get an objective viewpoint from the forum.

I am a single guy, no kids who met a divorced woman with 2 kids. I am older than her by a few years. So age is not an issue.

Here's the outline of how I met this woman:

1. I met this woman about 6 weeks ago. We met the "old fashioned" way, at a bar/club. We danced and talked and seemed to hit it off.

2. We had our first date about a week later. Again, we seemed to enjoy each other's company.

I learned she is divorced with 2 kids and does not go out to bars/clubs very often. That is not a problem for me. I don't want to date a party girl anyway. She also told me she has her kids every other weekend.

3. I followed up a few days later to ask for the 2nd date and she said she could NOT make it because she had to be with her kids that weekend.

4. So I followed up the next week to say hello and try set up a 2nd date. Note: All of our communication has been via text. So I texted her to say hello but before I could even ask for the 2nd date she cut me off by saying she was busy with her kids and she had to run.

I immediately wrote her off at that point. I figured she had lost interest. So although I liked her I figured I best just move on.

5. About 1 or 2 weeks later she texted me out of the blue to say hello and wish me a good holiday season. I responded in kind.

But I also followed up that brief exchange with a text a few days later telling her I'd like to take her out to dinner when she is less busy with the holidays, etc. She did NOT reply to that text. Once again, I figured she was just being nice and saying hello. So I let it go.

6. HOWEVER, this lady texted me AGAIN on Christmas to say hello and wish me Merry Xmas. She made no reference to my proposed dinner one week prior. So I responded in kind with a Merry Xmas but made no effort to ask her out AGAIN.

So that is where I have left it so far. I have a guy friend who told me to give it another try with her since she keeps texting me. At this point, I am NOT sure what she does or does not want.

I would like to hear what others think? If you don't mind, please let me know if you are male or female if you respond. Just want to know where you are coming from.

THANK YOU!

Once again I say stop texting. Communication is lost in it.

[wallofsound]

Thank you all. Appreciate your perspectives.

[TheEarthBeneathMe]

Sounds like she's just blindly wishing people happy holidays...

I would probably say you really liked your time with her, and if she's up for doing anything again to let you know - and move on with your search.

[Snort]

2 kids? Sounds complicated. Why not find someone more available and with a less complicated situation?

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Timmyy

Once again I say stop texting. Communication is lost in it.

No kiddin'! They sound like a couple of friggin' teens!

[wallofsound]

Originally Posted by TheEarthBeneathMe

Sounds like she's just blindly wishing people happy holidays...

I would probably say you really liked your time with her, and if she's up for doing anything again to let you know - and move on with your search.

Just to be clear, her last text to me on Xmas was personally addressed to me by first name. It was not a "mass text" to all her friends saying happy holidays everyone.

[Snort]

Originally Posted by wallofsound

Just to be clear, her last text to me on Xmas was personally addressed to me by first name. It was not a "mass text" to all her friends saying happy holidays everyone.

She called you "Wall"? I find that offensive.