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So today I caught my husband looking at Kama Sutra, different sex positions and things like that on the internet. I of course was a little puzzled at first i passed it off took me a shower after a hard days work and sat down to discuss it with him. His reason for looking at it was because "I want to spice up our love life, and I want a child" Well I am only 20 years old, I am still in college and I want children but not until i graduate.. i haven't told him this yet! Anywho..I want to have sex all the time he doesn't.. he said that he wanted to try different positions i was all for that i told him i wanted him to initiate it this time instead of me he said alrighty we will start it tonight. Well i've been waiting for 4 hours now it is 3 am my time.. His excuse is he was about to pass out after we came home from our friends hes been laying on the couch watching tv since then..
I am so confused, I am all for what he wants but i don't think when i caught him that I was what he wanted..??? advice please
Many people hook up with others because they are lonely and need someone. Sometimes these people like the other person but are not very physically attracted to them. It sounds like the guy is not very attracted to you physically. But probably just likes you, likes to be with you. There are many marriages like that. It's called "settling" cause you can't do better.
So today I caught my husband looking at Kama Sutra, different sex positions and things like that on the internet. I of course was a little puzzled at first i passed it off took me a shower after a hard days work and sat down to discuss it with him. His reason for looking at it was because "I want to spice up our love life, and I want a child" Well I am only 20 years old, I am still in college and I want children but not until i graduate.. i haven't told him this yet! Anywho..I want to have sex all the time he doesn't.. he said that he wanted to try different positions i was all for that i told him i wanted him to initiate it this time instead of me he said alrighty we will start it tonight. Well i've been waiting for 4 hours now it is 3 am my time.. His excuse is he was about to pass out after we came home from our friends hes been laying on the couch watching tv since then..
I am so confused, I am all for what he wants but i don't think when i caught him that I was what he wanted..??? advice please
You actually married each other without first settling the question of having/not having children and when to do it?
You guys have a long road ahead of you
Find an older woman to mentor you, there are a lot of things I don't think you understand and need to learn about, starting with how to communicate effectively with your spouse.
You actually married each other without first settling the question of having/not having children and when to do it?
You guys have a long road ahead of you
Find an older woman to mentor you, there are a lot of things I don't think you understand and need to learn about, starting with how to communicate effectively with your spouse.
yeah i know but i thought this was not going to be an issue.. and i don't know any older women mentors my mother moved away and the rest of the people in my life who are women and older than me i don't trust very well..
i can't afford a shrink so i guess i am s**t out of luck. laughing out loud
yeah i know but i thought this was not going to be an issue.. and i don't know any older women mentors my mother moved away and the rest of the people in my life who are women and older than me i don't trust very well..
i can't afford a shrink so i guess i am s**t out of luck. laughing out loud
Write to me on dm if you'd like to talk - I'm an older woman
If he isn't interested in sex with you at 30, it's only going to get worse. There's some other psychology going on here. I was married to a man who tried to use sex as a control mechanism. And he looked at porn. Just wasn't interested in doing those things with me.
I have since moved on and I can tell you there are men who want to have sex with their SO. As often as time and physiology will allow.
Be really careful NOT to get pregnant. There may be some big life changes ahead for you. Changes that will be complicated by having a child at 20.
If your husband is having thyroid problems with low T levels, he needs to be seen by a specialist. As for him looking at KS, maybe he was trying to work on getting motivated for sex with you.
I've dealt with someone with lowT and it isn't that he's not interested in you, it's that his body doesn't cooperate. It's as frustrating for him as it is for you. Don't take things personally and work on the issues at hand which, right now, are physical with him.
Be really careful NOT to get pregnant. There may be some big life changes ahead for you. Changes that will be complicated by having a child at 20.
Her profile says she has 2 children.
It also states she weighs over 300lbs.
At the age of 20, with 2 kids and being significantly overweight, there are some major issues going on here. But then she states she wants children so who knows what is truth and what is fabricated in the whole story.
Djuna...that's "ferret" children......worrywort23....maybe your husbands desire to have kids is very strong for him right now....maybe he's consoling himself by trying to substitute new pleasures in sex with what he really wants...children.....I don't know how long you 2 have been together, but the subject of when/if a couple have children is a subject that should not be put on the back burner...sounds to me that untill you trully discuss what/when you both want in life...your relationship may faulter......have a good talk....as others have said.....once you're both on the same page,I think all things will/can become better...and by the sounds of it....more exiting.
At the age of 20, with 2 kids and being significantly overweight, there are some major issues going on here. But then she states she wants children so who knows what is truth and what is fabricated in the whole story.
That is ferret children.. and yes at one time i did weigh over 300 pounds not ashamed of that but I have now happily lost 67 pounds and still going so before your quick to judge and comment please read further!
That is ferret children.. and yes at one time i did weigh over 300 pounds not ashamed of that but I have now happily lost 67 pounds and still going so before your quick to judge and comment please read further!
OH and.. why would i desperately seek advice from friends on a forum and fabricate such a story like this???
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