Man, 99, divorcing wife of 77 years. (cheats, divorce, serious, people)

[Irishiis49]

Just like my grandma told me...don't put in writing anything you don't want the whole world to know!!Now I tell my DD don't put on facebook....!

[14Bricks]

Originally Posted by WakaFlocka

If he found out back in the 40's, I'm sure he would have left her then. She intentionally deceived him. The fact that he's 99 and likely has a foot in the grave doesn't mean he should let it slide. And I'm sure he's wondering if his kids are really his.

Good point, I didn't even think about the kids thing. That would be unforgivable.

[14Bricks]

Originally Posted by jasper12

I like it. What is all this "ageism" I see in here? Would it be different if the guy was 40, and his wife 39, and they had been married for ten years?

Yes, because if I'm forty I can still have a life ahead of me, 99 your pretty much screwed.

[blondiel]

Originally Posted by srjth

Any way I slice that, I think it's ridiculous.

It doesn't hurt less to find at 99 years that one's spouse cheated. It probably hurts more. To realize that a spouse lived a double life for years, physically and/or emotionally, has to hurt to the core. Older people hurt the same as us younger people.

[14Bricks]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Obviously it's a hurt...a big one. And I guess for anyone, even at that age, the first thing that comes to mind is divorce. I hope he has some time to rethink his actions...I suspect that at his age, staying together would serve him much better than splitting up.

As far as wondering if the kids are his...are you serious? He raised them, they are grown. Of course they are his. The biology of it is rather pointless now.

Are you serious? A man shouldn't care if his children are biologically his? Only a women would say something that ridiculous. I would be beyond pissed if some women deceived me into raising somebody else's kids that I thought were mine.

[14Bricks]

Originally Posted by blondiel

It doesn't hurt less to find at 99 years that one's spouse cheated. It probably hurts more. To realize that a spouse lived a double life for years, physically and/or emotionally, has to hurt to the core. Older people hurt the same as us younger people.

Very true, good point.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by blondiel

It doesn't hurt less to find at 99 years that one's spouse cheated. It probably hurts more. To realize that a spouse lived a double life for years, physically and/or emotionally, has to hurt to the core. Older people hurt the same as us younger people.

Perspective.

I would ask myself "Do I want to die with all this anger, negativity and alone (not to mention leaving it with others) or do I want to die pleasantly and with a light heart and my loved ones around me? I think forgiveness is a virtue (just my opinion!) and if there's any time I'd hope to have that virtue of forgiveness it's when I'm that old.

[Liberty2011]

Originally Posted by srjth

Perspective.

I would ask myself "Do I want to die with all this anger, negativity and alone (not to mention leaving it with others) or do I want to die pleasantly and with a light heart and my loved ones around me? I think forgiveness is a virtue (just my opinion!) and if there's any time I'd hope to have that virtue it's when I'm that old.

That's easy to say when it's not your 77 year marriage that has been based on deception, secrets and lies. He has been with the same woman since he was 22. At 99, his life is ending, there is no do-over, no reclaiming those lost years. I think it would be next to impossible to be of the "I want to die pleasantly and I forgive you" mentality. I applaud him for taking a stand and trying to end the sham of a marriage and reclaim some of his power before his time is up.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

That's easy to say when it's not your 77 year marriage that has been based on deception, secrets and lies. He has been with the same woman since he was 22. At 99, his life is ending, there is no do-over, no reclaiming those lost years. I think it would be next to impossible to be of the "I want to die pleasantly and I forgive you" mentality. I applaud him for taking a stand and trying to end the sham of a marriage and reclaim some of his power before his time is up.

Power would be the last thing I'd be concerned with. I'd rise above all that. It's not like I'd be afraid of my spouse cheating again at that age. But really it would be more about me and how I want to feel and be in my last days rather than the other person and what they did and the regrets I have in and about life.

But you know what? I have no doubt that a lot of people die really cranky. I'm convinced that people enjoy being angry.

[Narcissus23]

Til Death do us Part, and Death on his part was long over due.........................