I am trying to be friends with my ex (men, husband, Valentines)
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Your boyfriend needs to come out of the closet already.
All signs are pointing to him wanting to be with you, and if that's not the case, then he just enjoys you paying for expensive trips.
I think you should call him out and get all this sorted immediately...
Its not that simple and that was one of the issues we had. I know from personal experience that telling yourself you are gay is a huge step and if a person is not ready then there is no forcing it. Plus on top of it his family is homo phobic and I know he is worried he will lose them even though they are rarely if ever there for him now. So even though it is hard I have decided to accept him for who he is and be his friend and deal with the fact he has a gf.
One more thing is I do know he likes it when people do things for him and I went into the relationship knowing that and I am the kind of person who likes doing things for people so it does not bother me at all. To me money is not worth much if you are not having fun with your friends or a bf so I have no problem going out and spending it as you can't take it with you and to be honest and blunt unless I really go all out, I am not super rich, I have more then I can spend in my lifetime so that is not a concern for me.
Last edited by Josseppie; 01-04-2012 at 05:08 PM..
Its not that simple and that was one of the issues we had. I know from personal experience that telling yourself you are gay is a huge step and if a person is not ready then there is no forcing it. Plus on top of it his family is homo phobic and I know he is worried he will lose them even though they are rarely if ever there for him now. So even though it is hard I have decided to accept him for who he is and be his friend and deal with the fact he has a gf.
One more thing is I do know he likes it when people do things for him and I went into the relationship knowing that and I am the kind of person who likes doing things for people so it does not bother me at all. To me money is not worth much if you are not having fun with your friends or a bf so I have no problem going out and spending it as you can't take it with you and to be honest and blunt unless I really go all out, I am not super rich, I have more then I can spend in my lifetime so that is not a concern for me.
I get what you're saying, I think you seem pretty honest about the whole situation. I just think it's kind of wrong of him to have this girlfriend, when he wants to be with you...(Obviously, I'm sure you feel the same, lol...)
It would drive me nuts being that girl...he's going to give her some major issues down the road if he doesn't break it off w/ her. I mean, this could be potentially devistating...
It would drive me nuts being that girl...he's going to give her some major issues down the road if he doesn't break it off w/ her. I mean, this could be potentially devistating...
If the girl doesn't soon "get it" herself then she's either incredibly naive, super daft or doesn't care whether her boyfriend is bisexual or anything else.
To be honest I'm not sure now why the OP even started the thread. He seems like a pretty decent sort but obviously he's going to do exactly what he was doing in the first place and really didn't need any input from anyone else.
Someone suggested I start a new thread. I decided it was a good idea so here it is..........
I just finalized dinner plans with my ex and I am meeting him at a local sushi restaurant. I am kind of nervous as I have not hung out with him since July but I think enough time has passed that I am able to be his friend. I just hope the same is true with him.
It will be interesting to see if he still whines like he use to and more importantly if he leads me on. He currently has a gf so if he does try to lead me on it would have a opposite affect. I would not say anything at dinner but will laugh after and feel sorry for him and especially his gf. I mean who would want to date someone if they are actively leading on other guys and girls? I know I would not. To me it would show that he would have no problem cheating on his partner and cause me to be thankful that I am not dating him but only his friend.
When its over I will post how it went...............
Case in point... he's leaving the new gf for the old one.
And she's falling for it... tisk
No. The characters in this drama are a homosexual, a bisexual and a current girlfriend of the bisexual unless you're confusing this with a completely different thread ...
I get what you're saying, I think you seem pretty honest about the whole situation. I just think it's kind of wrong of him to have this girlfriend, when he wants to be with you...(Obviously, I'm sure you feel the same, lol...)
It would drive me nuts being that girl...he's going to give her some major issues down the road if he doesn't break it off w/ her. I mean, this could be potentially devistating...
I don't necessarily disagree with you but that is not something I can tell him it is something he has to learn on his own. As a friend I can just be there for the process no matter who he dates.
I am having more and more of my friends tell me that these are signs he really wants to be with me. Then last night I got a text from him asking why I called his Gf. I don't have her number and I have never called her and that is what I told him. To be honest I could walk past her on the street and I would not recognize her even though I know of her. I think she is doing this because she feels threatened. Now rather she has good reason or not I am not sure as currently we are just friends. I have not talked to him since but next time I do I want to find out what she said I told her when I supposedly called her because that is just not my style.
Last edited by Josseppie; 01-05-2012 at 02:45 PM..
If the girl doesn't soon "get it" herself then she's either incredibly naive, super daft or doesn't care whether her boyfriend is bisexual or anything else.
Agreed
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Originally Posted by STT Resident
To be honest I'm not sure now why the OP even started the thread. He seems like a pretty decent sort but obviously he's going to do exactly what he was doing in the first place and really didn't need any input from anyone else.
Thank you for the compliment.
I admit I am stubborn, however, this thread is a continuation of another thread from when I was trying to decode of I should call him or not. So this conversation has helped me set a side my romantic feelings for him and be a friend and while I am still not exactly where I want to be I am in a much better place then I was in even 2 weeks ago when I was not talking to him.
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