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Old 12-31-2011, 08:37 AM
 
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When a woman puts a guy in the friendzone, doesn't that mean that she is not sexually attracted to him? And by sexually attracted, what I mean is he does not turn her on, whether that be physically or mentally (personality) or both.

I know that guys put women in the friendzone as well, but I am asking about women doing it.

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Old 12-31-2011, 08:47 AM
 
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Most woment pride themselves on being "virgins" of some sort. Whether that be actual, born again, or "I've locked down my gold mine until a worth candidate comes along". In the same breath, most women view other women as complete sluts who will sleep with a potato if it asks nicely.

"Friend Zone" simply means you get no boink.
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Old 12-31-2011, 09:02 AM
 
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Most woment pride themselves on being "virgins" of some sort. Whether that be actual, born again, or "I've locked down my gold mine until a worth candidate comes along". In the same breath, most women view other women as complete sluts who will sleep with a potato if it asks nicely.

"Friend Zone" simply means you get no boink.
My question was more getting at whether or not women sleep with guys they are not attracted to (even if he asks nicely). I think the attraction has to be there before it happens no matter what.
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Old 12-31-2011, 09:17 AM
 
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My question was more getting at whether or not women sleep with guys they are not attracted to (even if he asks nicely). I think the attraction has to be there before it happens no matter what.
I can't speak for all women but for myself personally, no way in heck I could sleep with someone I wasn't attracted to. That would pretty much gross me out!

However, with that said, there once was a man that I was friends with that I started dating. The more I got to know him, the more I found that I really liked him and his personality and THAT made him attractive to me and moved him out of the "friend zone".
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Old 12-31-2011, 09:31 AM
 
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I can't speak for all women but for myself personally, no way in heck I could sleep with someone I wasn't attracted to. That would pretty much gross me out!

However, with that said, there once was a man that I was friends with that I started dating. The more I got to know him, the more I found that I really liked him and his personality and THAT made him attractive to me and moved him out of the "friend zone".
Well yeah in your case the attraction grew first and then you sleep with him (that's good!) but I wonder how many women can sleep with a guy who she feels no attraction to or it never grows??????
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Old 12-31-2011, 11:10 AM
 
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I cannot sleep with a man that i'm not attracted to. That would be like torture!

I just recently put a man i was dating in the friend zone. At first, i was really attracted to him. We went out several times and whenever we went out, we would spend most of the day and nite together. During these dates, he was very affectionate, very touchy feely, and i liked that! This would lead to a big build-up for me of a wonderful kiss at the end of the nite. But at the end of every date, i would get a nice, soft peck on the lips. Which can be nice...but after awhile, you want a more romantic kiss than that!

When i asked him about it, he started philosophizing about how a real kiss may be one thing to me and something different to someone else. Which is true, but @ that point all i wanted was an open mouth kiss darnit! My attraction for him died down pretty quickly after that, and he's now in the friend zone. I know that there are some people who don't like to kiss, but it's very important to me.
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Old 12-31-2011, 11:31 AM
 
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When a woman puts a guy in the friendzone, doesn't that mean that she is not sexually attracted to him? And by sexually attracted, what I mean is he does not turn her on, whether that be physically or mentally (personality) or both.

I know that guys put women in the friendzone as well, but I am asking about women doing it.
Women are very picky when it comes to looks in men.

Stop wondering why it's so and don't think you can do anything to change it. No amount of reasoning and persuasion that you're a great guy, will be supportive to them, and that you get along great is going to move you out of the friendzone. Trust me.

Get over it, and go hit on lots of them.

Good advice that was given to me.
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Old 12-31-2011, 11:41 AM
 
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I am a little older so the notion of having a relationship with someone and then switching them to a friendship only status seems wierd. The newer generation seems to be OK with this as they can have a relationship and then turn it into a friendship only deal. My daughter has done this with a prior boyfriend and she seems fine with it. I couldn't do it I'm afraid.
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Old 12-31-2011, 11:46 AM
 
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The friend zone is a myth concocted by men upset their female friends won't date them. Believe me even if we know you for 12 years if we like you and the chance is there we take it. If we don't it means we are not interested in you like that.
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Old 12-31-2011, 11:53 AM
 
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The friend zone is a myth concocted by men upset their female friends won't date them. Believe me even if we know you for 12 years if we like you and the chance is there we take it. If we don't it means we are not interested in you like that.
Yes. That's true. In reality, women can be turned around. I'm older, so I've seen it. It took one of my friends 10 years.

But it's so much more work and heartbreak than it's worth. The more practical solution is to move on or not have female friends in the first place.
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