Can two people fall in love & create a lasiting relationship in 80 Hours? (date, wife)

[ocean2026]

Many say there is love at first sight but that is probably more lust or ascribing personality where really one has no clue what the person is like. Its sometimes easy to confuse love and lust because some people still feel guilty about having only lustful thoughts outside of a loving relationship -others just want to possess someone.

So allowing for the above- if two people meet both of whom have good communication skills and spend 80 or so hours together consecutively with sex love and lots of talk - can they know with some certainty that they have a real chance at a lasting relationship.

Please give a thoughtful response-there are many other threads for simpletons.

[Texabama]

Possible, but unlikely. That's if you're talking about flying somewhere to meet for the first time without any type of email correspondence.

I do believe in instant attraction, but it takes a long time to get to know a person. Anybody can put up a front for 80 hours - not showing their true self. But, like I said, it's possible. Watch for red flags and don't kid yourself, my friend.

[mir86]

ha, no. I've definitely met men a few times in my life who took my breath away based on lust the second I met them, but I knew it wasn't love, at all.

[srjth]

Yes I think it's possible if luck is on your side and you both have an open heart. Lots of people fall in love at first sight and go on to have happy marriages. They just end up having similar values and goals. Just as many fall in love at first sight and it doesn't work out because of lack of shared values or open heart. I think it's all just a matter of luck of being at the right place at the right time and meeting that right person.

[Mikala43]

Possible? Yes. Probable? No.

[PJSaturn]

Anything's possible. I know a few couples who've been happily married for a long time and who say that for them it was, quite literally, love at first sight. My brother and his wife are a perfect example. They met at my brother's then-girlfriend's high school graduation party. The gf's cousin swept my brother off his feet that day. They went out on their first date the following day and declared their love for each other on the day after that. They just celebrated their 42nd wedding anniversary and still act like smitten 18-year-olds.

I know times have changed a lot since then and the world is generally a colder and more cynical place. But I still believe it's possible, albeit unlikely, for a couple to fall in love that quickly and have it be the real thing.

[NotARedneck]

Can two people fall in love & create a lasting relationship in 80 Hours?

...if the guy is good looking enough! I've seen it happen a number of times.

[elnina]

After 80 hrs together, sex and talk - I would think they found mutual attraction, but love? No. Love grows, love is more than few hours together. Love might develop from this, but is not yet.
Now, you are asking about "certainty" - there is no certainty in a relationship. The heart of a successful relationship is trust, love and devotion to each other - so if they work on it with all their hearts, they might succeed to have a lasting relationship. Only time will tell, and certainly not after 80 hours.

[Frihed89]

In 80 hours one can certainly find out if it's worth investing another 80, don't you think?

[TaoistDude]

Possible? Certainly. But not terribly likely that you'll truly know them well enough until you've spent time together over 6 to 12 months in a variety of circumstance, some of which should be stressful or demanding in some way, to ascertain there true character.

I think you can determine within a very short time (even a few hours) whether or not someone has strong potential to successfully navigate the longer term, but only living through the longer term with them will provide the proof.