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Old 01-06-2012, 10:27 PM
 
Location: Spokane
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i care for a person, but found out she has std, and i am having a hard time with now knowing this and would you continue with the relationship? I understand you can't die from this, but it's still something I don't want to have on my body.... just a tough situation , just asking for any "good" advice...
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Old 01-06-2012, 10:41 PM
 
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What STD?
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Old 01-06-2012, 10:46 PM
 
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At least she told you. That should be +1 in her favor.
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Old 01-06-2012, 10:48 PM
 
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It would be helpful to know what STD she has.
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Old 01-06-2012, 11:35 PM
 
Location: SWUS
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Yup, what they said. Which one is it? The clap? HIV? The herp?
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Old 01-07-2012, 12:44 AM
 
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i care for a person, but found out she has std, and i am having a hard time with now knowing this and would you continue with the relationship? I understand you can't die from this, but it's still something I don't want to have on my body.... just a tough situation , just asking for any "good" advice...
While it is completely understandable to be concerned about not contracting an std regardless of how "harmless it may appear" it is your right to not want any part of it...
However if you really care for this person you can opt to protect yourself with the use of condoms which is best practices anyway.
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Old 01-07-2012, 04:25 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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Thousands of men and women with STDs have long and loving relationships/marriages with unaffected partners who never become affected, The key is in understanding the particular STD and knowing all the precautions it's necessary to take. For some embarking on a new relationship it's a deal breaker, for others it's not.
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Old 01-07-2012, 04:37 AM
 
Location: San Francisco
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I am a woman with herpes who married a man who didn't have it. The hardest thing I ever had to do when we started dating was to break the news to him. I was terrified that he might reject me, but he only smiled, took my hand and gave it a squeeze. That's how I knew he was a keeper.

We've been together 28 years now. We never took any special precautions other than avoiding contact when I was having symptoms, and to this day he still doesn't have it. So if this woman is right for you otherwise and you are happy with her, don't throw away a good thing because of a virus. If you take precautions and she takes an antiviral medication, the chances are very good that you'll be fine. Even if you were to catch it, I am here to tell you that it's a nuisance but it's not the end of the world. Outbreaks do tend to diminish with time and in some cases even go away altogether.
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Old 01-07-2012, 05:04 AM
 
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Certainly not something to take lightly. Caring for? a subjective emotion.....If you aren't invested in this person, I think I would keep it as friends. You may, depending on the severity of Her STD be deciding on a situation that will affect you the rest of your life. Make sure that you are that serious about this person. It is commendable that She was honest w/ you, and are you capable of that same honesty if you do catch it. Before you decide please educate yourself about the STD, lots of good websites online.
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Old 01-07-2012, 05:30 AM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Wow, kemosabes have high tolerance levels for such crazy stuff. Am I missing something here
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