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Originally Posted by lonelyhousewife
this guy and I have been talking via facebook and by phone for about 5 months. We are both 33 now and hadnt seen each other since high school. We made plans for the weekend we spent together so it wasnt just a sporatic hookup.
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Therein lies the problem.
People change in some ways as they grow up, especially from school days to their 30's.
People who "communicate" via non-face to face means miss out on lots of signals, subtle signs and cues. Humans where never meant to communicate long distance, as its not communicating.
You're possibly still "living in you school days" when you think of him and this is what drives you to re-kindle things with him.
He may feel the same but may not.
You need to find out but I wouldn't make more than 1 effort to contact him before getting a response.
He has to meet you 50% of the way, otherwise there is no equitable relationship.
This is not nice, but maybe he changed his mind after he met you but took the chance for sex while it was available (as most men will do).
The hugging for 30 mins before parting could be that he is still in the aftermath of being with your body for x hours.
The test is how he responds afterwards and you need to get that in the cold harsh way of waiting.