Women - would you get into a relationship with a guy perceived as being better looking (attracted, family)

[NotARedneck]

Women - would you get into a relationship with a guy perceived as being better looking

Originally Posted by Tee247

Hi Ladies,

What is the female perspective on being with someone who is generally perceived as being more attractive?

From what I've seen, it is rare that a woman doesn't look for such men. She does this for the children she plans to have with him and the approval of her girlfriends.

After they get married and the disparity increases further, then she starts to fret.

Of course, this doesn't apply to very attractive women. They go for men with money/status and fret when he is about to trade in. Of course, the blow is softened a lot by the property settlement and alimony, except in Texas where it is limited to $36,000 a year.

[greenlawn1]

Originally Posted by wanderlust76

I always notice that too I'm not sure what the deal there is I think it depends on how much money the guy makes. Sometimes you'll see really out of shape dudes with women that clearly exercise too. I'm like seriously I work my butt off and watch what I eat every day to stay in shape and these guys are getting the physically attractive women.

So how else are you preparing to land the gorgeous women? My question to you is now why do desire these women?

I work out, make a good living etc and plan on going for the plain types. If hotties like guys that are out of shape, you and me both should do well with the plain ones right?

[greenlawn1]

Originally Posted by srjth

Do you know what I like? I like to feed the guy I'm with well and I can see how that can make a guy gain some weight.

Why do you do this? gain weight in a positive way, or to make him look fat?

Either way sign me up if you are a good cook.

[srjth]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

I was just thinking dating ugly chicks might be a good strategy. Other women will think, 'he must really love her for who she is, not for how she looks. Therefore he's not shallow.' Then when they think you're an angel you dump your ugly girlfriend when she least expects it.

Lol I'm not really that cold-hearted.

I have heard of guys hooking up with an unattractive girl just to get closer to her more attractive friend!!! And, yeah, that's pretty cold.

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by wanderlust76

Aren't you the one that said you like overweight women?

"Pretty" women and "overweight" women are two different swimlanes. Fact.

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by greenlawn1

What is really wrong with dating down for men or women?

Actually, men are now EXPECTED to date down, unless they are multimillionaires.

This applies to well over 95% of the married men I know.

This is a big change from fifty or more years ago when there was a rough parity and equal married equal. This explains a lot of the large decline in the percentage of men who now marry.

1) men will only go so far down the food chain.

2) women would rather get sloppy seconds (or even thirds, fourths or fifths) which explains why divorced men remarry at a rate far higher than divorced women.

Of course, all we ever hear about is how picky men are when they are really only talking about 10% (wealthy or good looking) of men!

As well, they never seem to ask why the "desirable" divorced man was divorced. They always assume that it was the fault of his ex, just like they assume that it is always entirely the fault of the never married single guy - he must have some dark unrevealed secret!

[srjth]

Originally Posted by greenlawn1

Why do you do this? gain weight in a positive way, or to make him look fat?

Either way sign me up if you are a good cook.

I don't do it for either one of those purposes. I do it because I love to cook and I like for people to enjoy my food, especially my guy! I'd be miserable being in a relationship with someone who didn't like good food. I'd rather him be healthy, but if he gains a few pounds, I'd probably feel a little proud of that, to be honest.

[Dewdrop93]

Originally Posted by darrensmooth

there are women out there and on this forum that HAVE uttered 'I have to be the pretty one in the relationship' But frankly that is not how ALL women are just some. It's pretty insecure to reject someone because they are too good looking.

I don't HAVE to be the pretty one - but it's my preference. I dated people for who they are - not just what they look like. And yes - I can be insecure - but I would never reject someone because they are too good looking. I've never rejected anyone based on their looks - whether good or bad.

But for the record - guys aren't "pretty" anyway! They're handsome or cute!

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

I was just thinking dating ugly chicks might be a good strategy. Other women will think, 'he must really love her for who she is, not for how she looks. Therefore he's not shallow.' Then when they think you're an angel you dump your ugly girlfriend when she least expects it.

I certainly didn't use this as a strategy. However, I can say that it didn't work for me. What happens instead is that women hold the opinion that you should have made a marriage proposal, no matter how incompatible you were or how little you felt for her. They may fight tooth and nail for men among their peers but hold a soft spot for women who they don't consider a threat. The feelings of men who women don't desire are never a consideration. They just expect them to be desperate.

These perceptions persist and can create problems for such guys, so I would recommend being careful who you get close to. Using this as a strategy will likely backfire unless a guy can attract women he desires without such a ruse.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by darrensmooth

there are women out there and on this forum that HAVE uttered 'I have to be the pretty one in the relationship' But frankly that is not how ALL women are just some. It's pretty insecure to reject someone because they are too good looking.

What is wrong with some women? It's hard being ugly, not being hot is a liability?

Does this have anything to do with love, or stroking one's ego?