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Old 01-17-2012, 10:49 AM
 
Location: North Hollywood
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This happened to me last week. I went to a speed dating event last Friday. I walked to the back of the bar & gave my details to the organiser. Then I waited a few mins for the event to start. I looked around to see who else was there, and I saw my manager sitting against the front wall!

I sneaked out and went home because I felt that it would have been too awkward. I don't think he spotted me...

FYI, my manager and I are not close, we never discuss our personal lives with each other. We're both male.

What would you have done if you were in my shoes? Has anything like this ever happened to you?
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Old 01-17-2012, 10:52 AM
 
Location: The Milky Way Galaxy
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Hit on him
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Old 01-17-2012, 10:53 AM
 
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Wouldn't care. Bosses are human too (well, some of them aren't).
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Old 01-17-2012, 10:53 AM
 
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I would have walked over to him, stuck my hand out and said "well hi, Joe, I thought you were married". I wouldn't care if it was awkward to him, if it was, he shouldn't have been there. Why did you let it ruin your evening? You being there might have ended up making you his best friend.
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Old 01-17-2012, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Is he married and shouldn't have been there, or is it that you felt awkward being there because of him being your manager?

If it's the second one, I wouldn't have let that impact my interest in trying to meet people for prospective dates.
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Old 01-17-2012, 10:58 AM
 
Location: NY
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I don't think I would feel it was akward. So he was there to do some speed dating, as you were. The two of you would have been meeting and talking to other people during the "speed dating" and not paying attention to each other. You could then compare notes at the water cooler.
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Old 01-17-2012, 11:01 AM
 
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try to get my promotion
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Old 01-17-2012, 11:01 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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If you were a woman, it would probably be more awkward since you'd probably have to speak to him as he made his way around the speed-dating rotation, but since you're both men you wouldn't have to engage with him unless you wanted to.
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Old 01-17-2012, 11:07 AM
 
Location: North Hollywood
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Is he married and shouldn't have been there, or is it that you felt awkward being there because of him being your manager?

If it's the second one, I wouldn't have let that impact my interest in trying to meet people for prospective dates.
He's not married as far as I know. I felt awkward because he's both my manager and somebody I work with. I am very guarded about my private life at work.
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Old 01-17-2012, 11:43 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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He's not married as far as I know. I felt awkward because he's both my manager and somebody I work with. I am very guarded about my private life at work.
I can understand this. I think I probably would have done the same thing if I were in your shoes. I am a big believer that private life and working life should be kept separate! Its one thing to see him out at the movies, or a bar, or bowling, its a whole different thing to see him at a speed dating session.

I feel like the speed dating thing would be sort of embarrassing for some people to know your going to it. At least now, you know that one weakness your manager has is that he is lonely. Figure out a way to help him with that and BOOM, PROMOTION! Non perverted way of course. Like try hooking him up with a single female friend of yours.
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