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If its based on good looks, then yes you're correct. If he is extremely rich, you're wrong.
The "extremely rich" thing brings up a lot of other issues that have been covered before. As far as we know, the OP is a "hot" guy who's also "an all around great guy" (whatever that means). If that means he's rich I'm sure there are some people who would love to parade around with him for that reason alone. All we know right now is that the OP has an inflated view of himself.
OP, are you for real? If so that strategy will only work with someone with very low self-esteem. If that's the kind of woman you want, good luck to you.
There is an answer for your strategy, but i'm certain that any mention of it violates ahem certain policies.
first you gotta figure out what you want, your strategy is no different than putting a blindfold on and playing a game of darts. Your bound to hit the wrong target in the worse way, but it will be a good learning experience for you.
If you want hot chicks then you should go after hot chicks, simple as that. You can't circumvent this by openly admitting your going after women you don't find attractive.
If you want to be the trophy you have to realize that you need either status, money, or a viable skill that produces something (or you just need to be really good at whatever you do).
A far easier way to test this out would be to hit up a spot with a few of your friends, and be "that guy" that takes the grenade for the team. Now that will be a real learning experience.
A far easier way to test this out would be to hit up a spot with a few of your friends, and be "that guy" that takes the grenade for the team. Now that will be a real learning experience.
A couple red flags I see with your dating strategy...
1. You have stated you believe that if you like (love?) someone they will like (love?) you back. I do not believe you can make someone love you just because you love them (no matter how hot and perfect you may be). However, maybe they will like you back, just because you like them. But is that all you want? Have you ever been in love (I ask because you are young)? It can be a very powerful experience and I highly recommend it.
I once had a long conversation with an Indian couple (both educated, Dr.'s) who had a successful, arranged marriage. They believed that, if they were compatible (as determined by their parents) and liked each other, a couple would grow to love each other over the years as they had. They thought Westerners put too much emphasis on love in a relationship. I found that interesting. I do not view relationships that way. But maybe you do?
2. You think you are the ultimate catch for many women. Are you correct? Are you depending on appearances? Women are attracted to many different things. What is the ultimate catch for some, is a catch and release for others. Even if you check off everything on your "Make-Me Hot" list, you may still be missing that something that attracts the perfect "Plain Jane." That is why it is best to just be yourself, instead of a caricature of "perfect" traits.
3. You want to start a relationship on unequal footing where you feel you'll be superior to your partner, thereby causing the "Plain Jane" to desperately cling to you because they cannot do better. Is that really the kind of relationship you want? I'd find that unexciting. I want a partner where we both feel like the luckiest people in the world and are all over each other (will you feel that way for Plain Jane?). And as others mentioned, once you reveal the secret (it will eventually become apparent) how do you think that will affect things?
4. You are not going for the best, the brass ring - the beautiful girl who also has the beautiful personality - but instead you want to settle at your young age. Confident men go for the prize. It makes me think you are either insecure and need the validation you think a Plain Jane can give you or you are just not as hot as you think. Or maybe you have some other reason to get a girl - want regular sex, want children, want to immigrate, want a cook/housekeeper, want companionship - which seems desperate (and unattractive to prospective mates). Relationships have been based on these things, but it is so much sweeter and exciting (especially over the long-term) when it is based on mutual attraction IMO.
Not really. In my observations, they often do exactly what he plans to do - go for the easy life with no challenges; in other words, the life that won't keep him on his toes!
A far easier way to test this out would be to hit up a spot with a few of your friends, and be "that guy" that takes the grenade for the team. Now that will be a real learning experience.
Yes, the perfect way for him to test his dating strategy and how it makes him feel. Another thing is the "Plain Jane" may likely feel used and hurt when it doesn't work out in the end. But I guess that is something she could address in another thread e.g. "How to spot an insecure guy faking his attributes in order to get a desperate, plain woman who doesn't think she can do better" or something like that...
Not really. In my observations, they often do exactly what he plans to do - go for the easy life with no challenges; in other words, the life that won't keep him on his toes!
Really? Even smart, hot, successful, confident men? That sounds boring. Glad my hot guy's not like that... we keep each other on our toes!
That's kind of exhausting... Having basis for comparison in the past, I prefer the easy life, too, as far as marriage goes.
We are energetic. I prefer the exciting life. It has worked out well for both of us for over a decade.
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