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That, and that you come across as super controlling, mean spirited, and completely lacking empathy.
Why because I don't date dads? nope that's called being smart. My boyfriend thinks I am the sweetest woman because I am there for him so nope not controlling mean or lacking empathy.
It is nobody's business and nobody's right to judge anyone who is over 40 and never been married. People need to mind their business and stay out of other people's lives. Are people really this shallow and insecure?
A lot of people have this perception that anyone who is over 40 and never been married is somehow "not normal". My experience has not totally borne that out yet, but my friends who fit this description DO seem to have a nerological problem or two. male and females I know.
If Im ever in the dating pool agian (God willing) I know I will only date a divorce or a widower. That is just my preference. Even before I met my SO I made it a rule to only date men over 40 who were DIVORCED or widowed,,,,,Your results may vary. But if women like me expect that, it is only fair for the men to right?
I read that Condileeza Rice has never been married and you know she is over 40...but she had a very important position in life., i.e. politics.
What does everyone think of the never marrieds over 40 men or women alike?
I'm curious, why do you find it so necessary to date men? Do you need their approval? Do you need an audience?
It is nobody's business and nobody's right to judge anyone who is over 40 and never been married. People need to mind their business and stay out of other people's lives. Are people really this shallow and insecure?
I don't care what other people do--unless they want to date me. Then I reserve the right to make a judgment on whether they are right for me. And vice versa, of course.
I have friends who are over 40 and have never been married. I will say that most of them have had some kind of emotional trouble, usually depression. Not all. But most. That's not to say they are bad people. Just that their depression or other things that they were coping with made it difficult for them to develop and sustain healthy relationships with healthy people. They would either end up in dysfunctional relationships that actually made things worse for them, or their behavior would cause problems in their relationships and their partners would get frustrated, run out of patience, and leave.
Some eventually came around to seeing their patterns. Others continue to take Prozac like it's candy, expecting the pill to do all the work, and then wonder why they can't get past 6 months or a year with someone.
I think she is in her 50s, it just reminded me i seen a video of her on "The View" and i just smh how joy bejar sent her a subliminal diss... i dont know why some women seem to get off by stigmatizing older unmsrried women
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I don't care what other people do--unless they want to date me. Then I reserve the right to make a judgment on whether they are right for me. And vice versa, of course.
I have friends who are over 40 and have never been married. I will say that most of them have had some kind of emotional trouble, usually depression. Not all. But most. That's not to say they are bad people. Just that their depression or other things that they were coping with made it difficult for them to develop and sustain healthy relationships with healthy people. They would either end up in dysfunctional relationships that actually made things worse for them, or their behavior would cause problems in their relationships and their partners would get frustrated, run out of patience, and leave.
Some eventually came around to seeing their patterns. Others continue to take Prozac like it's candy, expecting the pill to do all the work, and then wonder why they can't get past 6 months or a year with someone.
A lot of wise words here, and a fair amount I actually identify with.
Normal these days. Most people are losing interest in the institution of marriage.
Thank you. Except for the legal benefits, I see no good reason to get married. Committing to someone is fine. But why does that commitment need to be sanctioned by the government?
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