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Old 01-20-2012, 12:33 AM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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Just remember, the only thing that's worse than an awkward first date is an awkward second date.
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Old 01-20-2012, 01:26 AM
 
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
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That's terrible advice. For one thing, drunk people say stupid things and often slur their words. For another, he's going to smell it. For another, he will think she's a drunk.

And then what? He also assumes she's a tramp and tries to get her drunker to see if he can get laid, or she's stuck driving home drunk.

If there's no spark, there's no spark. With millions of men out there, there are plenty to choose from where a date won't be like pulling teeth.

Maybe instead of showing up drunk, she could suggest second date is in a cool restorant/bar and she can have a Margarita or something, that will sure make conversation flowing more naturally. That wont make her look like a tramp or anything, it will just help her to relax and actually be her more funny or charismatic. He should have a drink too so they both are in the same wave. I think it could work.
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Old 01-20-2012, 01:32 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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If there is no chemistry, there is no chemistry. I've tried to go on 2nd, or even 3rd dates when there was no spark on the 1st date. Nope, was never to get the kindle going if the 1st date is a bust.
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Old 01-20-2012, 01:46 AM
 
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Sounds like there just wasn't a spark between you two and trying to redeem yourself through a 2nd date probably won't make a difference.
I agree. I don't think I'd try with a 2nd date.
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Old 01-20-2012, 01:55 AM
 
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
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If there is no chemistry, there is no chemistry. I've tried to go on 2nd, or even 3rd dates when there was no spark on the 1st date. Nope, was never to get the kindle going if the 1st date is a bust.
Sometimes you think theres no chemistry but in reality the one thing thats missing is....ALCOHOL!

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Old 01-20-2012, 01:58 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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Sometimes you think theres no chemistry but in reality the one thing thats missing is....ALCOHOL!
True true, there is definitely chemistry in alcohol... of the organic compound variety
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Old 01-20-2012, 05:44 AM
 
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You're prob all right but still I kinda want a second one for some reason. If anything just to prove to myself that I can talk to anyone! But still he might/probably say no and that's ok too. I wouldn't blame him.


Also, you guys are all so harsh, don't you give people second chances?
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Old 01-20-2012, 06:21 AM
 
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I agree it was awkward and uncomfortable for both of us. A part of me wants to just walk away and never look back, but another part wonders where this could lead if I was being myself. It's not that difficult to hold a conversation and usually I can no problem, but this time was different. I just feel like there might be something there. I don't know. I could be wrong.

I should also clarify that unlike your date dr74 it wasn't completely silent. We did laugh and smile but there were more silences than normal for a first date. Going into a first date, esp a blind one, I expect there to be silences but this was just one too many
You are just buying into the guilt, and the challenge, you're bothered because he obviously didn't feel any interest in you either. Why bother. The only possible thing you could do, is try to fix him up w/ a friend, and perhaps he could do the same for you. Or all of you(the folks that fixed you two up) go on a group date, dinner, bowling, the super bowl get together, take the pressure off. You may make a genuine friend, rather than a potential boyfriend.

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Old 01-20-2012, 07:50 AM
 
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You're prob all right but still I kinda want a second one for some reason. If anything just to prove to myself that I can talk to anyone! But still he might/probably say no and that's ok too. I wouldn't blame him.


Also, you guys are all so harsh, don't you give people second chances?
I agree with you. People are way too harsh and expect immediate sparks, it's the stupid American way. Blind date? Of course there's likely not going to be immediate great chemistry, people get nervous and can be off from their normal selves.

Give it a second shot. What do you have to lose? Worst case, it's another awkward hour or two. Best case, he might become your future SO.
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Old 01-20-2012, 08:19 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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Do you think he was attracted to you? If so, that will probably be your savior. If a guy is attracted to a women, then he most likely will try his best to make things work. Be sincere with him and tell him that you are not normally that quiet. Try to make things work with him again.
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