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Old 01-19-2012, 08:25 PM
 
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I was set up with this guy by a mutual friend and right off the bat there were awkward silences. I don't know if it was because of me or him, but I just couldn't think of anything to get the conversation going and apparently neither could he. I'm not the shy, quiet type, but for whatever reason i couldn't think of anything to say.

The date did not go well because we couldn't think of any conversation topics. But I still want to give it a second chance even though I'm positive he doesn't feel that way. At the end, he walked me to my car and we said our goodbyes and that was it.

But like i said, I want to give it another try and get to know him better because he really does seem like a nice, genuine guy.

Is there any way I can salvage this situation?
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Old 01-19-2012, 08:40 PM
 
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Sounds like there just wasn't a spark between you two and trying to redeem yourself through a 2nd date probably won't make a difference.
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Old 01-19-2012, 08:43 PM
 
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Were you nervous? Just not up to the date that night? If so, tell him and see what happens
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Old 01-19-2012, 08:44 PM
 
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Sounds like there just wasn't a spark between you two and trying to redeem yourself through a 2nd date probably won't make a difference.
you're probably right.

but on a side note, how often do you get that instant spark? because i've dated and i've been in relationships, and i don't think i can ever say that the spark was there from the beginning. maybe that's my problem and why they're ex bf's
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Old 01-19-2012, 08:46 PM
 
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Were you nervous? Just not up to the date that night? If so, tell him and see what happens
I really have no idea what the problems were. All i can say is that i wasn't really myself.
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Old 01-19-2012, 08:49 PM
 
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I really have no idea what the problems were. All i can say is that i wasn't really myself.
I've had many days like that! Give it a try. Gee, I'm sorry about the other night, I just wasn't myself. Would you let me buy you a drink and make it up to you?
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Old 01-19-2012, 08:54 PM
 
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I've had many days like that! Give it a try. Gee, I'm sorry about the other night, I just wasn't myself. Would you let me buy you a drink and make it up to you?
This is a great way to get to know me. LOL
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Old 01-19-2012, 09:05 PM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston
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I've had many days like that! Give it a try. Gee, I'm sorry about the other night, I just wasn't myself. Would you let me buy you a drink and make it up to you?
I understand that one of you had a "bad" day, but both of you??
Did you found your date attractive? Did you had anything in common that would start the conversation? School, work, friends, activities, hobby, food, drink, books, movies? Anything??
Call your mutual friend and get some info about that person ...
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Old 01-19-2012, 09:09 PM
 
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No offense, but why would you want to suffer through another silent night? Sounds like torture to me.
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Old 01-19-2012, 09:15 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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No offense, but why would you want to suffer through another silent night? Sounds like torture to me.
because it was a hoooly night
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