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I see nothing wrong with them at all. Like many things, a pre/post nuptial agreement can be as little or as much as you want them to be. I'm all in favor.
Besides, you think you know a person until you split up with them. That's what you really find out what they are made of.
I think most people tend to change their minds about a prenup after they go through a divorce. Like Dewdrops stated in her post, I too made a vow until death do us part. That vow didn't matter to my exwife when she decided to sleep around with four different men I thought were friends. She ended up filing for divorce three times in one year and there was nothing I could do about it. I couldn't afford her attorney fees. The title to valuable property my father had given to me before I married was taken from me and assigned to her attorney. I lost almost everything I had except my desire to excel at my business. She was given that first business too, but I started a second one she wasn't able to take. To answer your question, yes, she is still alive. I'm not going to tell you the thoughts that went through my mind while all of this was going on. I swore I would never marry again...
Your ex-wife was a terrible person...but it reminds me after I had my first child I swore I would never do that again...did you stick to it??I didn't!
I think most people tend to change their minds about a prenup after they go through a divorce. Like Dewdrops stated in her post, I too made a vow until death do us part. That vow didn't matter to my exwife when she decided to sleep around with four different men I thought were friends. She ended up filing for divorce three times in one year and there was nothing I could do about it. I couldn't afford her attorney fees. The title to valuable property my father had given to me before I married was taken from me and assigned to her attorney. I lost almost everything I had except my desire to excel at my business. She was given that first business too, but I started a second one she wasn't able to take. To answer your question, yes, she is still alive. I'm not going to tell you the thoughts that went through my mind while all of this was going on. I swore I would never marry again...
Wow...that was absolutely horrible of her, to do to you!!
A follow-up question though: how was she legally able to seize your mentioned pre-marital assets? (I thought pre-marital assets were "off-the-table" from divorce proceedings, at least in non-community property states?) Do you live in a community-property state?
I think most people tend to change their minds about a prenup after they go through a divorce. Like Dewdrops stated in her post, I too made a vow until death do us part. That vow didn't matter to my exwife when she decided to sleep around with four different men I thought were friends. She ended up filing for divorce three times in one year and there was nothing I could do about it. I couldn't afford her attorney fees. The title to valuable property my father had given to me before I married was taken from me and assigned to her attorney. I lost almost everything I had except my desire to excel at my business. She was given that first business too, but I started a second one she wasn't able to take. To answer your question, yes, she is still alive. I'm not going to tell you the thoughts that went through my mind while all of this was going on. I swore I would never marry again...
I'm reminded of a joke. One guy discussing his divorce with another, "You never really know a woman until you meet her in court. She cried and the judge wiped her tears with my checkbook."
Seriously, I'm a woman and I'm all for them. I think when you are both young and just starting out without a lot it's ridiculous, but if you are older or on your second marriage and have established yourself and your finances a great deal then it makes sense to me. I busted my hump. I paid for college, I bought a house on my own, I accummulated some coin...for me I'd do it to cover my rear end. Whatever we accummulate after the date of marriage however would become community property and rightfully so, even if one person stayed home. Everything in a marriage works as a support mechanism.
I wouldn't even let the guy I lived with drive my car or vice versa because if he got in an accident with my car I could be sued and lose my house since I was the owner of the vehicle.
Whatever we accummulate after the date of marriage however would become community property and rightfully so, even if one person stayed home. Everything in a marriage works as a support mechanism.
I think most people assume that what you come in with, you leave with. I know that's the law in my state, not sure about others.
However, some here are saying that what you earn in the marriage should be yours and yours alone, e.g. Kobe's wife should not get his millions because he was the basketball player and earned the money while she stayed at home. I think that is what is being argued here.
So it's not really about having the prenup, it's about what the prenup states. I don't think most people would be offended if they were offered a "hands off my pre-marriage assets" contract.
If my husband had asked me to sign a prenup, he wouldn't be my husband today. I don't want to be married to someone who questioned my intentions or my character or my trust. I love him fully and completely, and if he didn't believe it was going to be like that "til death do us part", then he's not the guy I wanted to marry.
I was eager to go through premarital counseling, and then after marriage to engage in marital strengthening classes through church, take communication classes to learn how to discuss issues, etc. I will take every preventative measure to keep our marriage strong. I will not make plans for what to do if it falls apart--because neither of us are going to let it get to that level.
My husband and I have the same earning potential, similar financial values, and common financial goals. Unless zombies eat his brain tomorrow, I think we'll be okay.
Some people have accused me of being cocky or naive. I don't care--my marriage is awesome.
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(I thought pre-marital assets were "off-the-table" from divorce proceedings, at least in non-community property states?) Do you live in a community-property state?
