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View Poll Results: When it comes to pornography........
I Am A Women Who Would NOT Want My Husband/Boyfreind To Watch Porn 27 17.53%
I Am A Women Who Wouldn't Care If My Husband/Boyfreind Watched Porn 8 5.19%
I Am A Women Who Would Watch Porn With My Husband/Boyfreind 27 17.53%
I Am A Man Who Would NOT Want My Wife/Girlfreind To Watch Porn 12 7.79%
I Am A Man Who Wouldn't Care If My Wife/Girlfreind Watched Porn 27 17.53%
I Am A Man Who Would Watch Porn With My Wife/Girlfreind 53 34.42%
Voters: 154. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 01-24-2012, 02:21 PM
 
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Yet AGAIN, this is a question of what a person should do without being controlled. Understand that this can encompass the judgement of right/wrong or simply good/bad ideas. I'm not interested in the first on this subject, but I do contend that the viewing of pornography and fantasizing about someone other than your SO is a bad idea. It serves no purpose (at least no necessary purpose) in light of the risks.

There is a rather large variety of expectations that people place on their SOs, or another person in general, and all that distinguishes between appropriate "controlling" efforts and inappropriate ones is the question of right/wrong or good/bad ideas.
You will never know whether she's thinking about you or thinking about Brad Pitt as she orgasms
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Old 01-24-2012, 02:27 PM
 
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Yet AGAIN, this is a question of what a person should do without being controlled.
Talk about fantasy.

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Old 01-24-2012, 02:44 PM
 
Location: Mississippi
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If my wife wanted to watch pornography I would gladly let her and I would really enjoy watching it with her. I think those who are scared of it or who don't approve are afraid they might enjoy something considered so taboo. I wonder if those who are scared of a spouse developing an addiction feel the same way if their spouse drinks the occasional alcoholic beverage or eats the occasional cheeseburger (both potentially addicting habits)?

The reality is that humans did not evolve as monogamous creatures. This does not mean that we need to go out and hump everything that exists. In fact, it's perfectly normal and healthy for humans to have a single partner for their entire life. But, that doesn't mean we won't fantasize about other (perhaps multiple) partners in that time frame. We're just not wired that way. That's why your husband looks at the pretty college girl down the street and that's why your wife looks at the guy in the hardware store. It's called fantasy. It doesn't mean they're going to act on it but it does mean they're thinking about it. Big deal. It's a fantasy.

And, yeah, maybe your husband will get turned on when he sees the college girl down the street. So much so that he decides to have sex with you that evening. He'll probably be thinking about her. Big deal. You'll probably be thinking about something other than the fat slob who is bouncing on top of you for a grand total of thirty seconds.

The same goes for porn. It may actually enhance your sex life if the two of you can get over the fact that maybe your partner is fantasizing about someone other than the same thing they've been seeing in the bedroom for the past fifteen years. Those with the problem seem like they have real insecurity issues and I'd be willing to bet they're far more controlling in their marriages than this simple problem lets on.
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Old 01-24-2012, 02:55 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Finding someone attractive doesn't mean you have to go fantasizing about having sex with them. I wouldn't worry about the fantasies themselves so much as the inclination to do the fantasizing...
It doesn't, but she can and should do what she wants. The inclination to fantasize makes her a sexual human being, and there's nothing wrong with that in my book.
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Old 01-24-2012, 03:15 PM
 
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In my humble opinion, CDA and censorship is like falsely crying "Fire!" in a crowded movie theater...can't do the latter, for public safety reasons... In this case, CDA was specifically designed to protect children from being harmed by obscene online adult content, if my recollection is correct...

ETA: besides, before online adult content became so prevalent, children were previously effectively "censored" from printed adult content in bookstores, etc. Why shouldn't the same standard apply to online adult content?
Because adults are old enough to decide for themselves what they want to watch and what they want to think. I don't want some lame brain telling me what I can watch or think, it's nobodies business but might. Once you can control a person's thoughts you control their mind, humble opinion or not, it stinks.
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Old 01-24-2012, 03:19 PM
 
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Old 01-24-2012, 03:22 PM
 
Location: in your dreams
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Yet AGAIN, this is a question of what a person should do without being controlled. Understand that this can encompass the judgement of right/wrong or simply good/bad ideas. I'm not interested in the first on this subject, but I do contend that the viewing of pornography and fantasizing about someone other than your SO is a bad idea. It serves no purpose (at least no necessary purpose) in light of the risks.

There is a rather large variety of expectations that people place on their SOs, or another person in general, and all that distinguishes between appropriate "controlling" efforts and inappropriate ones is the question of right/wrong or good/bad ideas.

I mean this makes sense and all, but it just seems so obvious. It's not like we're all retarded up in here.
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Old 01-24-2012, 03:29 PM
 
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I have an addiction to breathing. I do it constantly, I just can't stop.
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Old 01-24-2012, 04:05 PM
 
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And, yeah, maybe your husband will get turned on when he sees the college girl down the street. So much so that he decides to have sex with you that evening. He'll probably be thinking about her. Big deal. You'll probably be thinking about something other than the fat slob who is bouncing on top of you for a grand total of thirty seconds.
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This might be the first time I've choked on my laughter since joining this forum. Good job!
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Old 01-24-2012, 04:28 PM
 
Location: TX
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You will never know whether she's thinking about you or thinking about Brad Pitt as she orgasms
Trying to personally offend me or something? At any rate, that comment is irrelevant to my argument, but the foundation of a relationship is trust. I trust her not to do this just as any person might trust their SO not to actually have an affair in general.

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It doesn't, but she can and should do what she wants. The inclination to fantasize makes her a sexual human being, and there's nothing wrong with that in my book.
But so does the inclination to physically act on those fantasies (if these are two separate inclinations at all). Do you expect her to not act on them if given the chance? If so, why? Do you also subscribe to the view that expecting your SO not to fantasize about someone else is "controlling"? I hope not, because following that logic, expecting her to be faithful at all would be just as controlling.
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