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View Poll Results: When it comes to pornography........
I Am A Women Who Would NOT Want My Husband/Boyfreind To Watch Porn 27 17.53%
I Am A Women Who Wouldn't Care If My Husband/Boyfreind Watched Porn 8 5.19%
I Am A Women Who Would Watch Porn With My Husband/Boyfreind 27 17.53%
I Am A Man Who Would NOT Want My Wife/Girlfreind To Watch Porn 12 7.79%
I Am A Man Who Wouldn't Care If My Wife/Girlfreind Watched Porn 27 17.53%
I Am A Man Who Would Watch Porn With My Wife/Girlfreind 53 34.42%
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Old 01-24-2012, 08:11 AM
 
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The online adult industry is one reason why I at times seriously doubt that the invention of the Internet was really a good thing, at all...as it is, maybe we would have been better off without it...
Porn was around long before the Internet. Pornography is centuries old. Graphic images were carved in stone then when the printing press was invented porn took off to the masses. It satisfies the need for visual stimulation.

My take on it is if you don't like it don't watch but don't tell me what I can or can't view.

Censorship and prohibition don't work.
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Old 01-24-2012, 08:28 AM
 
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Generally speaking, Porn is very bad for young people that have little or no experience with a real sexual relationship, it gives a twisted idea of what what men and women actually enjoy.

Many things shown in porn will end any further activity and possibly get the person smacked and not in a nice way.

It is also bad for adults if it replaces a normal sexual relationship.

If it is used to enhance a sexual relationship where both parties enjoy it then there isn't usually a problem, if it gives one person ideas that the other doesn't like then it can be a problem.

Porn is a anomaly ... a BILLION dollar industry that no-one watches.
I agree with you. And you raise an interesting point about young people, with no sexual experience, accessing online and thinking that constitutes "normal". Back in the day, we fumbled our way around in the backseats of cars (one example), as part of exploring human sexual nature, and learned through trial and error what we liked or didn't like, or were willing to do. Young/inexperienced people may not have the maturity or filters to separate the online from reality.

I'm not against it, but the ease of access and availability of it online, I do find concerning.
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Old 01-24-2012, 08:31 AM
 
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I agree with you. And you raise an interesting point about young people, with no sexual experience, accessing online and thinking that constitutes "normal". Back in the day, we fumbled our way around in the backseats of cars (one example), as part of exploring human sexual nature, and learned through trial and error what we liked or didn't like, or were willing to do. Young/inexperienced people may not have the maturity or filters to separate the online from reality.

I'm not against it, but the ease of access and availability of it online, I do find concerning.
Parental control

If you're over 18 you'll figure out that sex isn't like porn sooner or later.
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Old 01-24-2012, 08:58 AM
 
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Isn't most porn like that, more or less? lol

I'm a feminist and I don't like porn, but my objections aren't related to my being feminist: rather, they're stylistic objections. I simply find it (or most of it) too ugly, vulgar and fake.

When watching movies, arousal is, in my opinion, pretty much like fear: suspense works so much better than action in building up a nice climax. When you're imagining a monster, or a villain, you're much more afraid than when you actually see it/him. I can be turned on by watching a movie, porn or not, but when it's all as predictable as some girl with her legs wide open, moaning far too much to be believable, constant close-ups of vaginas and penises, etc (what's the point, is this a medical video?), really, I could think of a thousand better ways to spend 10 minutes of my time.

As a matter of fact, I remember in particular one porn video I once saw that I thought was nice. It was a lesbian scene of two women that spent a lot of time kissing and caressing each other, making eye contact and being affectionate and erotic, before actually having (oral) sex (foreplay is sex too, but you know what I mean). And there were no ridiculously massive dildos, no laughable earth-shaking moans and, of course, close-ups were kept to a bare minimum and weren't, well, so close.

It looked real, it wasn't mechanical and it wasn't devoid of human-like interaction. And yet, I bet that most people who usually watch commercial porn would have thought it was boring... It's obviously a matter of personal taste.

However, I insist that I don't mind if my SO watches your typical porn video and I can watch it too. It's not like I'm going to throw up at the sight of it or anything. But neither of us is especially interested anyway.

No a vast amount is produced by female owned companies today and is more realistic.
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Old 01-24-2012, 09:05 AM
 
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Porn was around long before the Internet. Pornography is centuries old. Graphic images were carved in stone then when the printing press was invented porn took off to the masses. It satisfies the need for visual stimulation.
Very true...except the Internet took it and magnified it, exponentially and a thousandfold, vs. what it was like before the Internet...and also increased the target audience, drastically. Also I believe it's not too hard for children to be able to get around various filtering methods and view it, if they really want to...

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My take on it is if you don't like it don't watch but don't tell me what I can or can't view.

Censorship and prohibition don't work.
You may note my prefacing of the post you quoted, with "While I don't attempt to control or restrict others' rights to view online adult content if they wish..." The only issue I can see regarding that is, the way the technology is currently implemented, children can be (and are) exposed, to something that is potentially harmful to them...so while we can always say it is fine not to censor obscene content for adults, what do we do for the children who are harmfully exposed to this though? Filtering and parental controls only go so far, and can be overridden by various means...
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Old 01-24-2012, 09:06 AM
 
Location: North America
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Im with you!! Porn is cheating! But question is if your spouse allows you to watch porn, is it then considered cheating? Where do we draw the line? Lust is lust no matter if its on a screen or live.
You actually expect the only person you spouse to ever think about is you? :roll eyes:. I'm sorry but that is just not a natural thing for anyone to do during the length of their marriage.
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Old 01-24-2012, 09:07 AM
 
Location: North America
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wait, let me guess: "only if they fantasize about someone other than me."
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Old 01-24-2012, 09:25 AM
 
Location: TX
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If your spouse/boy/girlfriend masturbates, is that cheating as well?
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Wait, let me guess: "Only if they fantasize about someone other than me."
Why is that a stretch? Is it the physical part of cheating that really defines it as cheating? If someone rapes your SO, did they cheat? No, because it wasn't their intention to do it. Similarly, if your boyfriend or girlfriend ATTEMPTS to cheat but fails, is it not just as upsetting?

I suppose one could argue there is a difference between fantasizing about another woman and attempting to cheat physically, but there is no difference between fantasizing about another woman and cheating mentally/emotionally. It's the reason most women have a problem with their SO thinking of another woman while they're having sex. Even though he is physically having sex with her, that's not where his intentions are. He is essentially cheating.

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So fantasizing about a female friend he never had any real relations with or a TV/Movie star means a breakup or divorce?
Many people break up or divorce over their partner watching pornography and, if they find out, probably over fantasizing about someone else as well. It really makes just as much sense to me as breaking up over a physical affair, unless the man is struggling to combat these fantasies and is willing to change. But then again, many would say a relationship that is otherwise good can stand to forgive an instance of physically cheating as well. In general, you break up with someone because of differences that cannot or will not be changed.
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Old 01-24-2012, 09:27 AM
 
Location: TX
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You actually expect the only person you spouse to ever think about is you? :roll eyes:. I'm sorry but that is just not a natural thing for anyone to do during the length of their marriage.
If you're talking about fleeting thoughts, sure. But it is NOT too high an expectation to ask your significant other to not actively FANTASIZE about another person.
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Old 01-24-2012, 10:14 AM
 
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My biggest concern other then the extreme subjegation and potential bodily harm that is shown in some videos is the poor working conditions for the actors and actresses in the adult film industry. It really takes advantage of poor people who are down and out and have no other way to support themselves. Not talking about the Stars of the industry who make great money either.
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