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Well, it's happened again. I met a girl on OKcupid & things started out fairly well: she actually responded to my messages. Anyways, we kept getting to know each other & talking & things seemed to go well, but then we made plans one night. We decided we'd get together & I ask her where she'd like to go. She never responded. Turned out she changed her mind & decided to go somewhere with friends.
We had a bit of a huff, but then I overlooked that and we got back to talking again & finally made plans for this past Friday after I got back from a week-long road trip. In hindsight, we should have made plans for long before then, since she met a guy who she's now seemingly falling in love with.
The 20th rolled around and I didn't have any response from her, but I e-mailed her the morning of & she finally responded & I just learned all this within the past hour. She's really into this guy.
Once again, just before I think something nice could be beginning between myself and a beautiful girl, at the last moment, some other guy steals her away. Wow, that hurts. And I think every time it'll hurt less, but it doesn't really. I think it hurts a LITTLE less this time, but it's still significant.
I wish I could steal a girl from someone for once, just so I could have someone to be with. I mean, if I were permanently alone, it would be okay, but having hope & then having it dashed out in an instant so unexpectedly......that's what takes the wind out of you.
You need to thank your lucky stars she bailed on you. You might of missed out on finding the one that's for you by being with this girl. You'll meet her and it will be awesome. Just keep your chin up and keep on waiting in anticipation for the one that's coming!!!!!!!! :0) It will soooo be worth it.
You need to thank your lucky stars she bailed on you. You might of missed out on finding the one that's for you by being with this girl. You'll meet her and it will be awesome. Just keep your chin up and keep on waiting in anticipation for the one that's coming!!!!!!!! :0) It will soooo be worth it.
Soviet, step it up a little and don't wait too long for face to face meeting with the next one.
That's what I was thinking. There were a few extenuating circumstances (cough excuses cough) such as both of us getting sick simultaneously and her wanting me to be "spontaneous" and going out with her when I had just gotten off work (12-hour night shifts) and didn't want to make a bad impression by passing out in the middle of a meal or forgetting everything she said because I was too sleepy to pay attention.
I am worried, though: I feel that these horrific results might cause me to become more desperate and that I'll be more forward with future girls and that it will scare them away. What if I scare away the one that was meant to be? It's so unnerving.....
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Originally Posted by elnina
Is that the same girl you wanted to propose... with a basket full of love notes???
I copied that whole thing from someone else. Just wanted to get the girls' opinions on it, hahaha
You need to thank your lucky stars she bailed on you. You might of missed out on finding the one that's for you by being with this girl. You'll meet her and it will be awesome. Just keep your chin up and keep on waiting in anticipation for the one that's coming!!!!!!!! :0) It will soooo be worth it.
So true!!
Not to nitpick, but she wasn't stolen from you, you didn't have her in the first place. The fact that she didn't wait a week and found someone else while you were gone is a reflection of her character, not a reflection on you, since she really didn't give you a chance. Someone like that isn't worthy of the time you might spend analyzing what you could'a, would'a, should'a. Better things ahead!
I am worried, though: I feel that these horrific results might cause me to become more desperate and that I'll be more forward with future girls and that it will scare them away. What if I scare away the one that was meant to be? It's so unnerving.....
Maybe the first thing to do is change your attitude about it. It wasn't "horrific", it was an encounter with someone you really hadn't gotten to know well, that didn't work out. Excuses aside, if would work out if it was supposed to.
Don't obsess about this, let it go, and move on. It doesn't mean you change your whole style, and become needy and too forward with someone else. When you first meet and get to know someone, a natural rhythm develops between you. Don't mess it up by coming on too strong too soon for fear it might not work out. You will make all the wrong decisions when you're motivated by fear and desperation. The harder you try, the worse it is. R-e-l-a-x.
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Just wanted to get the girls' opinions on it, hahaha
