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OP, yes, I do think you behavior is very odd. But hers is a little strange too. To me, cuddling is more like spooning, not laying directly on top of the other person. I wouldn't be able to sleep like that.
I love to cuddle though! But once the guy falls asleep, I just roll away from him since I have a really hard time falling asleep if I don't have my own space.
If you're interested in a long term relationship, I think it'll be hard for you to find one if you don't like to cuddle at all and give off the vibe that you want the girl to leave right after.
I'm a girl and I don't cuddle. I value my sleep more than anything and am literally a zombie without it. I have often times slept on the couch in order to avoid any sort of contact during the night that may jeopardize my sleep. We can cuddle on the couch watching a movie or something but that's the extent of my cuddling capabilities.
I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now and whenever we've slept over at each others places, she lays on top of me in a cuddling way when we go to sleep. How does she think I'm supposed to sleep with her 120ish pound body on my chest? I guess I'm just a cold person? Maybe I'm weird? I just don't like to be touched regardless of how I feel about someone, and I do have feelings for her. Any other guys like this?
I can understand needing to "deal" with this when/if I get married, but at 3 weeks my mantra is: "I have work the next day, we're *done*, you're sober, it's only 10PM, your house is 5 miles away....go home."
Is my behavior odd?
Nope! I'm the same way...certainly at a 3-week point, I'd be walking them to the door by midnight!
As far as sleeping (which is what you are talking about - not "cuddling") - you can find plenty of threads here about that already. Has nothing to do with how affectionate someone is, and everything to do with how one sleeps. Some people love to sleep together, and some can't stand to be touching. Nothing wrong with either one...sleep is important, and anyone should be able to comprehend that sleep patterns are going to be different for everyone, and should not be used to indicate how much you care for someone.
I'm a guy and I love to cuddle, before and after or anytime really. I love the feeling of full body contact with the person you love. On the other hand, not sure I would enjoy what you are describing for more than a few minutes, certainly not to actually sleep that way.
I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks now and whenever we've slept over at each others places, she lays on top of me in a cuddling way when we go to sleep. How does she think I'm supposed to sleep with her 120ish pound body on my chest? I guess I'm just a cold person? Maybe I'm weird? I just don't like to be touched regardless of how I feel about someone, and I do have feelings for her. Any other guys like this?
I can understand needing to "deal" with this when/if I get married, but at 3 weeks my mantra is: "I have work the next day, we're *done*, you're sober, it's only 10PM, your house is 5 miles away....go home."
Is my behavior odd?
What you're describing doesn't actually seem like cuddling to me. Cuddling would be her snuggling up in the crook of your arm (and having it go numb... lol) but it seems she's pinning you down.
Statistically, you're not that strange, in general. Her way of "cuddling" certainly is, though! Never heard of anybody "cuddling" by spreading herself on top of a man for an extended period of time.
Yeah you can cuddle and fall asleep how ever I usually wake up and turn over. It is a great close feeling of love and security in the beginning, but after awhile you need comfort. Especially if the guy is a boney little wussy. Lol
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, you're sober, it's only 10PM, your house is 5 miles away....go home."
Get your issues resolved on your own. Using me as a proxy won't help you get over him.
unless you date fat girls.
